The Self-Authority Podcast

The Self-Authority Podcast is a psychology-informed podcast exploring why women overthink, hesitate to speak up, second-guess themselves, and struggle to trust what they know.Hosted by The Self-Authority Coach and psychotherapist, Elaine Belson, each episode features conversations and stories about the emotional patterns that keep women stuck.This isn’t about becoming fearless or perfect. It’s about knowing what you want and trusting what you know. New episodes weekly.

The Self-Authority Podcast is a education podcast hosted by The Self-Authority Coach and, with 10 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

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  Episode #10

  Assert Yourself Without Apology

  Aug 10, 20261 hourS1

  Good Girl Conditioning, Perfectionism, and Assertiveness Elaine Belson talks with masters-level psychologist Anita Kavrag about how “good girl” conditioning shapes perfectionism, fear of rejection, people pleasing, and the pressure to earn love through performance. (00:47) Anita’s early life in Croatia and the roots of the “good girl” pattern (07:00) Noticing the inner perfectionist in real time instead of obeying it (08:29) How fear of failure shapes a woman’s sense of self (13:48) Good girl conditioning, patriarchy, and why many women share the same pattern (15:16) Why women fear asking for what they want (17:54) The doormat versus dragon illusion (18:48) What submissive, aggressive, and passive aggressive look like in real life (21:36) Passive aggressive communication and why it leaves both people unmet (23:27) Why “nobody listens unless I yell” often starts with unclear requests (26:26) Assertiveness is not control, manipulation, or trying to force compliance (29:41) Why assertiveness cannot be learned in isolation from real conversations (31:21) Fear of rejection, catastrophizing, and the story people attach to no (35:29) People pleasing as a subtle form of control and the need to be liked (36:33) Needing others to understand your no, and why you do not owe explanations (38:31) Why some people over-manage reactions to protect themselves from consequences (39:34) The cost of boundary-setting, including losing some relationships (43:24) Values become real when you are willing to pay a price for them (46:17) The need to be needed in founders, providers, and caregivers (49:21) How over-functioning creates dependence and resentment at home and at work (50:40) Why resentment grows when requests are not stated clearly (53:30) Practical advice: identify the complaint, uncover the need, and make a specific request (55:58) Asking sooner prevents resentment from building (56:52) Most people like doing things for others when they understand what it means Anita Čavrag is a masters-level psychologist and coach best known for helping brilliant, accomplished women in business manage difficult people — prospects, clients and team members who don't stick to agreements or who cross their boundaries - without damaging relationships or reputation. She's helped 100+ experts and founders step into real authority. Her credentials include a Masters in Psychology and BA in Philosophy, NLP Master Practitioner, and ICF ACC accreditation. Free guide: The Art of Getting What You Want from People: https://www.fireflycareer.com/the-art-of-getting-what-you-want Free 90-minute audit session: tidycal.com/anitacavrag/audit-session Website: fireflycareer.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anita-cavrag-career-coach Connect with Elaine! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

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  Episode #10

  Learn to Trust Your Intuition

  Aug 3, 202647 minS1

  Trusting Your Inner Voice: How Energetic Intelligence Shapes Self-Authority In this episode, Wendy Sterling shares her journey from corporate success and life disconnection to embracing energetic intelligence as a way to deepen self-trust and authenticity. Discover how tuning into your body's signals and stepping into your true energetic authority can accelerate personal growth and create meaningful connections. 00:00 - Welcome and episode overview 00:12 - Wendy’s story of success and early conditioning 01:00 - The narrative of seeking external approval and its costs 02:20 - The wake-up call: divorce and self-reconnection 03:16 - How life coaching revealed new possibilities for self-trust 04:46 - From external validation to internal calibration 05:59 - Recognizing illusions created by societal narratives 06:53 - Safe versus authentic: the costs of living in fear 08:08 - The influence of control and language on self-perception 09:44 - Moving beyond reaction to authentic energetic leadership 11:05 - Making decisions from embodied intuition versus certainty 12:51 - Listening to your body's signals as valuable data 14:47 - The impact of hustle mentality on trusting yourself 15:54 - Flipping the script: trusting the nudge before evidence appears 17:28 - Differentiating emotional intelligence from energetic intelligence 20:04 - Calibration versus calculation in leadership 21:04 - Walking into spaces with confidence from your energetic authority 22:25 - Attracting aligned opportunities by leading from your true self 24:05 - Recognizing signals and messages from life as guidance 29:59 - The power of acting on inner knowing for rapid results 31:14 - The false ease of avoidance versus the real ease of trust 34:56 - Leading with energy: making choices aligned with your true self 36:40 - Using energetic cues to navigate high-stakes decisions 38:24 - Practical first steps to reconnect with your energetic intelligence 43:05 - Final thoughts: showing up authentically and trusting from within 45:44 - Connecting with Wendy for support and coaching opportunities Wendy Paige Sterling is an Intuitive Oracle and the founder of The New EI™—Energetic Intelligence, a modern leadership framework (aka your intuition). A former corporate exec with over 20yrs of experience leading teams and building multi-million-dollar regions, she now works with high-achieving women, founders and executives to deepen self-trust, reconnect with their inner knowing, their intuition, and use it alongside strategy to make clear decisions, lead with conviction and stop outsourcing their authority to fear, performance and external validation. https://www.facebook.com/wendypaigesterling https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-paige-sterling/ https://www.instagram.com/wendypaigesterling/ Book a complimentary intuitive clarity call: https://calendly.com/wendysterling/intuitive-clarity-call Connect with Elaine!LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcswFree Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

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  Episode #8

  Stop Being Hard on Yourself

  Jul 21, 202631 minS1

  <p>Most women are their own harshest critic—and it’s often driven by a deep fear of rejection and failure. But what if stopping that inner auto-critic could reshape your confidence and sense of self?</p><p></p><p>On this episode of the Self-Authority Podcast, Elaine Belson shares her personal journey from self-criticism to self-acceptance, revealing powerful techniques to break free from this vicious cycle.</p><p></p><p>Elaine recalls her “bed, bath, and beyond” moment—when anxiety about a simple conversation led her to realize her self-criticism was an addiction disguised as protection. She compares this inner dial...

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  Episode #8

  Stop Being Hard on Yourself

  Jul 21, 202631 minS1

  Most women are their own harshest critic—and it’s often driven by a deep fear of rejection and failure. But what if stopping that inner auto-critic could reshape your confidence and sense of self? On this episode of the Self-Authority Podcast, Elaine Belson shares her personal journey from self-criticism to self-acceptance, revealing powerful techniques to break free from this vicious cycle. Elaine recalls her “bed, bath, and beyond” moment—when anxiety about a simple conversation led her to realize her self-criticism was an addiction disguised as protection. She compares this inner dialogue to alcohol addiction and highlights how she learned to simply "not go there." By doing so, she discovered that being kind to herself on purpose strengthens her confidence and diminishes feelings of inadequacy. She explains how many women overcompensate through overanalyzing, mind-reading, and self-criticism to ward off rejection and failure, often forgetting their worth. You’ll discover: the two essential self-validation techniques designed to help you treat yourself with the same compassion you offer others; how fear of rejection and failure is a survival mechanism hardwired into us; and why relying on external “mirrors”—people’s reactions—leads to distorted self-image. why emotional intelligence and constructive communication are crucial for building authentic self-trust and resilience. practical tools, like asking “What am I genuinely afraid will happen?” when you catch yourself being hard on your inner self, and how to challenge the story behind that fear. This episode is a must-listen if you’re tired of battling self- doubt and that inner critic that holds you back from showing up as your true self. By trusting yourself and learning to validate your worth from within, you’ll unlock more confidence, ease, and emotional freedom. Whether you’re new to self-development or seeking concrete strategies to stop self-sabotage, Elaine’s insights will empower you to rewrite your internal narrative and embrace your inherent worth. Perfect for anyone ready to stop using self-criticism as a shield, and start living with self-trust. Transform your relationship with yourself and experience the freedom that comes from trusting your natural worth—because the key to confidence is already inside you. Timestamps: 01:18 - Overthinking and forgetting worries 01:50 - The comparison and mental rehashing cycle 02:31 - Recognizing self-monitoring as an addiction 04:31 - Self-protection through self-criticism 05:17 - Understanding women’s fear of rejection and failure 08:48 - The disconnect between how we treat ourselves and others 09:25 - Normalizing not feeling "good enough" 11:01 - Trusting yourself and overcoming perfectionism 14:18 - Reframing negative self-talk with the same compassion for others 17:27 - Problem-solving instead of self-criticism 19:15 - Being your own best friend 20:29 - The opposite of the golden rule 22:43 - Relying on yourself for a stable sense of identity 29:54 - Avoiding reliance on carnival mirrors: dysfunctional external validation 32:18 - Walking the tightrope: trusting yourself despite fear 42:16 - Trusting yourself and holding others accountable Connect with Elaine! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

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  Episode #7

  Speak Up with Confidence

  Jul 14, 202658 minS1

  <p>The Hidden Barriers That Stop You From Asking for What You Need</p><p></p><p>Discover how our own mental habits, like mind reading and second-guessing, hinder our ability to communicate effectively and build confidence. This episode shares practical insights on shifting from internal chatter to direct conversations that empower us.</p><p></p><p>Key topics:</p><p>- The impact of pre-verbal self-doubt on communication</p><p>- How mind reading and anticipation create barriers</p><p>- The importance of asking questions rather than assuming</p><p>- Checking in with others to foster clarity<...

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