Identity Matters

Something in you is already holding what you're in the middle of. The surface of the ocean can be all whitecaps and wind while the water just below was never disturbed. The sky can hold a hurricane and still be nothing...

Some of the biggest turns in life never feel like decisions at all. I've come to see that the anxious voice with all its “what-ifs” doesn't go quiet just because clarity has arrived, and it doesn't have to. That voice...

Some of us are gripping something that was never actually connected to where we're going. I've come to see that certainty isn't something we misplaced, but rather, it was never on offer. Certainty is a feeling, safety...

What if the tension you feel between wanting and allowing isn’t a problem to solve? In this episode, I explore why these aren’t true opposites, but rather two ways that life moves through us, like different doors that...

After 39 years as a doctor, and the last 4 years that I’ve been coaching, I realized my worth had been shaped by how much I produced and how many people I helped. Retiring from acupuncture in February, pausing coaching...

My friend and colleague Dr. Sara Joy O’Neill joins us this week to explore ordinary miracles, freedom, and how we shape our lived reality from the inside out. She describes how questioning what seems fixed can create...

This week I’m reflecting on how I still catch myself softening my words, reading reactions, and performing a more agreeable version of myself. It’s something I’ve seen in many women over decades of clinical work. This...

Most of us rush to name, fix, explain, or act on feelings, when the best thing to do is to sit with the raw sensation. We have an innate inner wisdom that already knows what a feeling is asking for: sometimes to...

Kristy Halvorsen joins me today to talk about the major identity shifts she’s undergone through the death of her mother in January, a “bell curve” of grief that peaked months later, and layered losses including family...

Kristy Halvorsen joins me today to talk about the major identity shifts she’s undergone through the death of her mother in January, a “bell curve” of grief that peaked months later, and layered losses including family...

In this episode, I share a recent conversation with a coach friend that revealed how much pressure I can feel to produce a polished “purpose” statement on demand. As I rambled through an answer, I noticed an underlying...

In this episode, I share a recent conversation with a coach friend that revealed how much pressure I can feel to produce a polished “purpose” statement on demand.<br /><br />As I rambled through an answer, I noticed an...

In this episode, I reflect on grief, love, and the unexpected ways that loss continues to surface in everyday life. From my wedding anniversary and a Father’s Day lunch to memories of my late husband and mother, I...

In this episode, I reflect on grief, love, and the unexpected ways that loss continues to surface in everyday life.<br /><br />From my wedding anniversary and a Father’s Day lunch to memories of my late husband and...

For 18 months, I walked past a silent reminder of one “simple” household task that I couldn’t seem to do. It came to represent the fear of making a mistake, the shame of admitting how long I’d avoided the situation, and...