Nov 28, 202514 min
Jay shares his experience as a home school Dad and how one very difficult question from his son allowed him to appreciate God's love for humanity. Jay also shares the great response he gave to his son to the question –...
About this Podcast:
The Pretender is a podcast hosted by Jay and addresses real life experiences by real people for real people. In a world that is filled with masked struggles, failures and mental battles, people are suffering silently and social media is pushing the boundaries. Most don't know where to start to break free; Jay breaks the ice by talking about and calling out his own struggles to show you there's a way to be free of the expectations of society. There's no super human, and there's no need for us to be pretending to be one. If you wanna know its ok to be a normal human being, come listen to me tell you all about my own personal struggles - who knows? Maybe we could cry and laugh about it together.
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What is The Pretender about?
The Pretender is a podcast hosted by Jay and addresses real life experiences by real people for real people. In a world that is filled with masked struggles, failures and mental battles, people are suffering silently and social media is pushing the boundaries.
Who hosts The Pretender?
The Pretender is hosted by Jay Siwiti. The show has published 42 episodes to date.
What has The Pretender covered recently?
Recent episodes include ""Why do you still love me?" (A father's home school journey.)" (28 November 2025, 14 minutes), ""What's on your Playlist?" - Talking life through music with Confidence (Part 1)" (14 November 2025, 102 minutes), and "How to say goodbye - Ginger a life story" (20 November 2024, 22 minutes).
How often does The Pretender publish?
The Pretender publishes roughly every few months, with episodes averaging 42 minutes across 42 episodes.
How hard is it to get booked on The Pretender?
Booking probability for The Pretender is 32%, and the host is rated Selective on guests. The Pretender requires a Pod Score of 80 or higher. The Pretender's contact route on record: verified email.
About the host
Jay Siwiti hosts The Pretender, a society podcast with 42 episodes published.
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Recent episodes
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Nov 14, 20251h 42mJay and his guest take the approach to discussing the different phases of life through the music we tend to play during the experience. We pick only the top 10 songs on the personal playlist and ask why those songs in...
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How to say goodbye - Ginger a life story
Nov 20, 202422 minJay shares his recent experience of losing his beloved dog Ginger. In doing so he explains how much saying goodbye to the dog was more about letting go of a part of his life that he hasn't shared and a reminder that...
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It's time for healing
Jul 2, 202423 minJay talks about healing from personal life events from both a physical, emotional and spiritual sense. During times of difficulty, tragedy, failure, illness or any valleys of life; it's often easy to get stuck into the...
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We're still suffering
May 16, 202416 minIn this episode, Jay recounts a conversation he had with a late friend about suffering and draws perspective from it today. Dedicated to M.N.M. - Still sadly missed. Resources: The story of the man born...
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The game hasn't loved me back
Dec 29, 202317 minJay recounts his love for basketball and the pain from it. He talks about why he is ready to quit – a true depiction of the impact the recent injury and process of recovery has had on him thus far. A little glimpse on...
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Where is your faith, Jay?
Dec 15, 202317 minIn November of 2016, Jay underwent a surgical procedure to repair his left Achilles tendon after it completely ruptured. He made full recovery in a record 6-7 months and went back to playing his beloved basketball...
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I'm sorry that I let you down
Sep 13, 202317 minIn this episode Jay pens a letter of apology to all the people in his life that he let down by choosing his own path. He gets a little personal in saying sorry for the unrealized potential that he left to pursue his own...
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You only get one shot at this life (with JK)
Jul 23, 20231h 53mJay talks to Joseph Kayaya about being yourself, living your life to the fullest, his love for running and we delve deep into his experience with dealing with the death of his Dad as well as mental health. We also get...
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Going back
Jun 10, 202325 minIn this episode Jay talks about how life is taking him back to parts of his life that he left behind. He goes in circles talking about going back to old relationships including professional relationships even giving an...
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Talk to the hand (The untimely end of friendship)
May 12, 202317 minIn this episode Jay talks about the challenges and 'weirdness' of adult friendship. He shares his experience being blacked out by a long-time close friend, how he came to terms with it and how he views friendship now...
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Doodling to survive
Apr 28, 202314 minIn this episode Jay reflects on his recent depression and health issues, as well as how he lost his creative ability and enthusiasm for writing. He talks about an interesting technique suggested by a friend to regain it...
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The secret life of twins with Ralf
Jan 14, 20231h 54mJay talks to his identical twin brother Ralf about the experience of leaving Africa to settle in Europe, his experience with the difficulty of childbearing and the the challenges of dealing with different cultures and...
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No excuses, life happened.
Dec 9, 202213 minIn this episode Jay reflects on his recent unplanned hiatus and life as he shares his strange illness, tragic death of a friend and gratitude through it all. Safe to say he is back! Resources: Thorn in the flesh...
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I am without a face (with Alice)
Oct 3, 20221h 36mJay talks to Alice-Mulo about her art, advocacy work in mental health and about her adult therapy coloring book (Free your mind, free yourself) - a first in Zambia. Resources & Links: Alice-Mulo 'Free your mind free...
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There are victims here too (Part 2 with Tabo)
Sep 16, 202252 minJay continues the conversation with Tabo about her journey of life; they talk about how she copes with life's various challenges, they talk about her career and the power of a woman as a home maker and she also shares...
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There are victims here too (Part 1 with Tabo)
Sep 2, 20221h 16mJay talks to Tabo about her journey of life; the challenges she has faced as woman in her aviation career, her time living in Western Australia, returning home to Africa and the challenges that presented for her family...
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There are victims here (with Serah)
Aug 19, 20221h 21mJay talks to Mrs. Pretender herself, his wife Serah about how she has walked with him through this journey and she airs out how she has borne the brunt of the pain as well as what helped them hold it together in their...
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Season 2 Trailer
Aug 14, 20225 minThe Pretender podcast is back for a new season. Here's a Preview of what's to come in season 2.
Aug 7, 20228 minIn this excerpt from episode 16, Jonathan talks about how at one point in his journey he was really down and fighting for survival, how he almost gave up. Then he also challenges believers and Christians to come in the...
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