The Discomfort Practice

The Discomfort Practice explores the value of discomfort in shaping who we are, how we are in the world and how discomfort can be a catalyst for positive social evolution. Betsy speaks to leaders, activists, athletes, creatives and others about comfort zones, having a conscious 'discomfort practice,' and the superpowers that lie on the other side of discomfort. Come get uncomfortable with Betsy... You can follow Betsy on:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thebetsyreed/ Substack https://www.substack.com/thebetsyreedLinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/thebetsyreed/Please note: I don't accept unsolicited guest pitches. I DO accept selective sponsorship enquiries: I partner with a small number of aligned brands and experiences.The Discomfort Practice is a curated platform and I partner with brands who align with my values and the themes discussed here.

The Discomfort Practice is a society podcast hosted by Betsy Reed, with 146 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Betsy Reed hosts The Discomfort Practice, a society show with 146 episodes published.

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  Episode #140

  Episode #140: Wrapping Up Season 5

  Sep 6, 202623 minS5

  In this solo episode, the final one of Season 5, Betsy doesn't try to tidy six years of the show into something resolved. Every neat version she drafted felt like a lie, so this is the untidy one, left hanging on purpose. The real throughline of the season wasn't the guest list, it was becoming visible, whether the episode was about that directly or not. She started Season 5, then paused it for nearly a year. She came back to it with a completely different life underneath her. She didn't resolve her discomfort with and desire for more visibility. She just got more honest about not having resolved it. And recorded more solos than she has in any previous season. And here's what's actually shifting. She's been through a cancer diagnosis and is still in treatment - and will be for some time yet. Her work landscape has cracked open too, bringing real financial discomfort alongside new clarity about how she wants to work and with whom. Embodied Leadership Lab is real now. Not a someday thing. A thing with a name and a door. Season 6 will have new territory: embodied leadership in the wild, discomfort as something that shows up in the body in real time, not just a concept discussed with guests. She's walking into it the way she's walked into every uncomfortable thing on this show, before she's got the ending, before she's privately practiced showing up perfect. In this episode, Betsy explores: What Season 5's real throughline turned out to be, underneath the guest list Why she paused the season for a year, and what came back different when she returned to it The shift she's not hiding: a cancer diagnosis, ongoing treatment, and a work landscape that's cracked open in hard and clarifying ways Why Embodied Leadership Lab stopped being a someday thing What's staying exactly the same going into Season 6, and what's turning up in volume The question she's leaving open: how real is too real, and where confessional tips into everyone else orbiting your emotions A closing practice to sit with: what's one thing that's currently over but not quite over for you, and can you let it just be what it is? The Discomfort Practice explores the uncomfortable edges where personal growth, leadership, embodiment and systems change intersect. Follow Betsy for more reflections on visibility, reinvention and building a life, and a body, that can hold the truth of what's actually happening. Follow Betsy on Instagram: @thebetsyreed Subscribe to The Discomfort Practice wherever you listen - and a five-star review always helps Join her on Substack, Voice Notes from the Edge : substack.com/@thebetsyreed Work with Betsy - coaching, the Embodied Leadership Lab membership on Patreon , community circles, and People Like Us dinners across Europe: www.embodiedleadershiplab.com

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  Episode #105

  Episode #139: Betsy By Herself on Life As a Feast

  Aug 22, 202618 minS5

  In this solo episode, Betsy comes back to a line she's been circling for months - since being diagnosed with cancer. She records this episode on the other side of a summer of chemotherapy, which she didn't know was coming when she first jotted down notes for this episode. She bites into Anthony de Mello's line "life is a feast but most people are starving to death." This isn't a recovery story. It's not "here's what cancer taught me," tied off with a bow. It's Betsy asking the same question mid-feast that she asked in March, post-cancer diagnosis, pre-surgery, pre-chemo: are you feasting, or are you starving in a room full of abundance? In this episode, Betsy explores: What it costs to keep choosing the feast when circumstances get harder instead of easier "Starvation consciousness" - the stories that convince us we're in famine when we're not: not enough, behind, wrong country, wrong timing Why abundance was never about the conditions. It's about what you let yourself taste The direct line between nervous system regulation and whether life feels vivid or flat The difference between numbing pain and actually metabolising it Why presence doesn't require the threat to be gone, and why that's the uncomfortable part What it costs to want things fully when wanting itself feels risky Why she refuses to sit here and politely starve The discomfort practice for this week: Notice where you're starving in the middle of abundance. Where are you postponing joy? Where are you numbing instead of tasting? Where are you pretending not to want what you actually want? And where might life already be offering you something you're afraid to receive? Just take one bite... The Discomfort Practice explores the edges where growth, truth and aliveness meet, the places we usually avoid, but where our real lives actually begin. If this one landed, send it to someone who needs the reminder that life can still be vivid in the middle of not knowing. How to get more of Betsy: Substack, Voice Notes from the Edge: https://substack.com/@thebetsyreed Work with Betsy - coaching, Embodied Leadership Lab membership, community circles, and People Like Us dinners across Europe: https://www.embodiedleadershiplab.com and https://www.patreon.com/embodiedleadershiplab Subscribe to the podcast and leave a five-star review

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  Episode #138

  Episode #138: Betsy By Herself, Podcasting in Active Discomfort & Not Knowing When It Ends

  Aug 7, 202617 minS5

  This is an unusual episode of The Discomfort Practice. For six years, Betsy has only recorded solos when she's felt in creative flow, with thoughts already framed. This one is different. She's a week late posting, and instead of waiting for the mood to arrive, she's recording from inside it: chemo has gotten hard, a client canceled projects and wiped out her planned summer income and another piece of work fell through yesterday; she's newly and suddenly in menopause - with a nervous system that has lost its usual brakes; it's been 100 degrees in southern Spain for days with a month of heat still ahead; she's bald from chemo and her feet hurt all the time (but she still has to walk her dog); and she's mostly alone with it. And kind of over it. But not yet through it… This is the edge of her own discomfort practice, and she decided that's exactly what belongs on the podcast. Not a lesson extracted afterward. Not a tidy insight. Just what it sounds like to turn on the mic without knowing when any of this ends, or what it's for. She gets a little weepy, which is not something she would have been brave enough to post even six months ago. But this is Betsy, living life out loud and welcoming others to do the same, whatever state they're in. In this episode, Betsy explores: Why she's recording this solo without waiting to feel "in the mood," and what that shift is teaching her What it's actually like to be a week behind on the podcast because life didn't cooperate Chemo, sudden surgical menopause, and a nervous system with no brakes left Financial crisis, cancelled work, and not having the energy to reinvent her business again Deep summer heat in Spain, and losing rest as a coping tool just as she needed it most The loneliness of long stretches without real human contact, even while being cared for Sitting with the question "what's the lesson in this?" and not forcing an answer Being the homework for the Embodied Leadership Lab — living out loud as the method, not just teaching it A line from the late poet Andrea Gibson, who wrote from her own chemo chair: measuring a life by width, not length Pema Chödrön's words on the "off-center, in-between state" as the actual practice, not an obstacle to it The Discomfort Practice explores the uncomfortable edges where personal growth, leadership, embodiment and systems change intersect. Follow Betsy for more reflections on reinvention, craft, uncertainty and building a life that feels vividly alive. How to get more of Betsy: Subscribe to The Discomfort Practice wherever you listen - and a five-star review always helps Subscribe to Betsy's Substack to get more of her thoughts, in writing: substack.com/@thebetsyreed Work with Betsy, through 1:1 coaching and Embodied Leadership Lab membership: www.patreon.com/embodiedleadereshiplab and www.embodiedleadershiplab.com

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  Episode #138

  Episode #138: Claire Carpenter on Leadership at the Edges: The Price of Being a Pioneer

  Jul 19, 202642 minS5

  In this episode of The Discomfort Practice , Betsy is joined by Claire Carpenter - coach, social innovator, entrepreneur, and founder of Scotland's Centre for Social Innovation, The Melting Pot - for a conversation about what it really costs to build something before the world even has language for it. Claire founded The Melting Pot nearly twenty years ago, long before coworking became mainstream and before "social innovation" became a buzzword. Together, Betsy and Claire explore the loneliness, creativity, exhaustion, identity shifts, and deep purpose of being an early pioneer - particularly in the social impact world. They talk candidly about burnout, leadership, the hidden emotional cost of sustaining mission-driven work, and the uncomfortable reality that many nonprofit structures may inadvertently prevent the very change they exist to create. This is a conversation about building community, surviving systems that weren't designed for humans, and what happens when the people trying to make the world better forget they are human too. In This Episode What it feels like to create something before people understand why it matters The early days of coworking and social innovation in Scotland Why pioneering often means spending years swimming against the current The emotional and relational cost of building mission-driven work Leadership, burnout, and learning to care for yourself while caring for a vision How COVID changed Claire's perspective on charities and social impact structures The tension between purpose and exploitation in the nonprofit world Why having your ideas copied is often a sign you've succeeded The shift from building organisations to coaching the humans inside them What social innovators need beyond passion and resilience Final thought: Claire leaves listeners with a challenge she never imagined her younger self would say out loud: "Don't set up a charity." Thoughtful, honest, occasionally spicy, and full of hard-earned wisdom, this is a conversation between two women who have spent decades building things at the edges of leadership, culture, and social change. About Claire Carpenter Claire Carpenter is a coach, social innovator, and entrepreneur with more than thirty years' experience helping people and organisations navigate change. She is the founder and former CEO of The Melting Pot , Scotland's Centre for Social Innovation, and one of Europe's pioneering coworking communities. Today she works with leaders, entrepreneurs, and purpose-driven organisations to help them overcome challenges, lead more sustainably, and create meaningful impact without sacrificing themselves in the process. Find Claire Website: www.clairecarpentercoaching.com Connect With Betsy Subscribe to the podcast and leave a five-star written review wherever you listen to podcasts - it genuinely helps get The Discomfort Practice out into the world. Read and subscribe (don't just follow) Betsy's Substack: @thebetsyreed Work with Betsy - coaching, Embodied Leadership Lab membership, community circles, and People Like Us dinners across Europe: embodiedleadershiplab.com and betsy-reed.com

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  Episode #135

  Episode #137: Betsy By Herself On Being the Homework

  Jul 5, 202620 minS5

  What happens after the brave thing? Not six months later. Not when the results are in. Immediately after. In this solo episode of The Discomfort Practice , Betsy reflects on what happened in the hours after launching the very first Embodied Leadership monthly Members' Lab in July 2026. The session itself was deeply moving, but not long after the room closed and her nervous system finally let go of months of holding, an old pattern came rushing in: the urge to burn it all down, disappear, and hide before anyone could reject something deeply personal. Something that truly matters to her. Rather than trying to fix or fight the thoughts, Betsy did what she teaches others to do: she observed them. Because sometimes we're not just teaching the work. We ARE the homework. And, as Betsy has found, in her work teaching embodied leadership, she most often IS the homework for things she passes on to others. In this episode, Betsy explores: Why old narratives often surface immediately after moments of courage The gap between what the body is experiencing and the story the mind creates How exhaustion can muddy the truth Why self-sabotage often arrives disguised as "being realistic" What it means to witness your patterns without becoming them A simple practice for noticing the story that appears after you do something brave If you've ever launched something, had a vulnerable conversation, taken a risk, or finally put yourself out into the world, only to immediately want to retreat, this episode is for you. Subscribe to The Discomfort Practice wherever you listen to podcasts. Work with Betsy Betsy is the founder of Embodied Leadership Lab, where she works with leaders, teams and organisations to develop embodied leadership, nervous system intelligence and capacity and more personally sustainable ways of leading in complexity. Check out Embodied Leadership Lab membership on Patreon Find out more about the work at www.embodiedleadershiplab.com Subscribe to Betsy's Substack: @thebetsyreed

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