Soft Survival

<p>Spring cleaning isn’t just about what’s around you—it’s about what you’re carrying. This episode is about stress, letting go, and finally creating space to stand up for yourself.</p><p><br></p>

<p>In this episode, I explore the difference between strength and resilience. People often use the words interchangeably, but I’ve come to see them as very different. One is about holding it together. The other is about...

<p>In this episode, Darryn Lewis and I talk about the invisible weight of being the oldest, the leader, the athlete — the one expected to hold it together. We explore how those early roles shape the adults we become...

<p>Gina Gonzalez-Iwakiri and I talk about what real confidence feels like — and how it’s different from cockiness. We explore losing it, rebuilding it, and learning to walk into a room without shrinking.</p><p>Are you...

<p>In this episode, I talk about the quiet ways we disappear — into isolation, into our phones, into endless scrolling that feels comforting but leaves us more anxious than before. We explore how doomscrolling tricks us...

<p>In this episode, I reflect on what it means to want to take a trust fall — with others and with myself — and the fear that comes up before you do.</p>

<p>In this first episode of the new year, I talk about choosing softness in a world that feels loud, heavy, and overwhelming. This isn’t about ignoring what’s happening — it’s about finding small moments of joy...

<p>Almost a year after losing my brother, we received the call that charges had finally been filed. Sitting in a courtroom, facing the person responsible, became the moment that pulled me backward into everything we...

<p>I didn’t choose independence—I needed it. In this episode, I talk about how hyper-independence formed as protection, the loneliness that came with it, and the quiet work of learning how to receive support.</p>

<p>Do you find your body living in the past and your mind racing toward the future? In this episode, I explore trauma, mindfulness, and the search for small moments of calm — the sunsets, pauses, and reflections that...

<p>In this episode, I talk about what it feels like to finally slow down, reconnect with old friends, and realize how much the idea of “family” has evolved for me. From pushing people away to finding comfort in the...

<p>A look at how trauma shows up in the body at night, why sleep feels unsafe, and what my insomnia has been trying to tell me.</p>

<p>A reflection on driving through the redwoods to visit my dad in Pelican Bay State Prison, and how those moments shaped my childhood.</p>

<p>Ever notice how dating or everyday life can bring out old patterns you thought you’d healed? In this episode, I unpack what maladaptive schemas are, how they show up in real life, and why getting triggered doesn’t...

<p>Growing up, my brother was told to be “the man of the house.” He stepped into that role too soon — fighting for us, feeding us, protecting me. This isn’t about the day my brother passed away. This episode explores...