Doing it Messy

Society sold us one version of "normal" and it was never built for most of us. This episode unpacks some mental load research, the gender pay and leadership gaps, and why questioning inherited expectations around...

What happens when you stop making life decisions based on what everyone else expects, and start asking whose life this actually is? Ruth shares the personal story behind The VIP Mindset, why values like Freedom and...

This is the full story of how a self-loathing people-pleaser with undiagnosed ADHD became the founder of VIP Mindset: the burnout, the slow unravelling of a life that never fit, and the field of period pain where this...

Have you ever put something off because you assumed there would always be time? In this episode, I’m reflecting on knowing what we want, building towards the opportunities we hope for, and being brave enough to take the...

What does it mean to choose who you want to be, even when you know you’ll never get it perfectly right? Today I’m sharing a story about a childhood friend, a moment I wish I’d handled differently, and the loss that...

Short description What if feeling stuck isn't about needing to try harder? What if we're simply being pulled in so many directions that we've stopped making deliberate choices about where we're going? In this episode...

A friend named a number for what she was capable of — and it made me realise how small I’d unconsciously made “possible” for myself. This one’s about seeing what others can do without falling into comparing yourself to...

Have you ever caught yourself wondering, Is this really the life I want? Maybe you've found yourself daydreaming about quitting your job, moving overseas, buying a boat, or starting over somewhere completely different...

This week Ruth explores te whare tapa whā, a model of health and hauora by Sir Mason Durie. She discusses what she’s trying right now, and why habits and community matter more than getting it right every time.

We hear the phrase work-life balance all the time—but what if the problem isn't balance at all? In this episode of Doing It Messy, Ruth questions why we've been taught to place work at the centre of our lives, with...

Some weeks you don't get polished — you get real. This one's about choosing presence over perfection, protecting what matters (hi, parkrun and Alignment Circle prep), and figuring out which balls actually bounce.

<p>**When Ambition Changes**</p><p><br></p><p>What happens when the life you've been working towards no longer feels like the life you actually want?</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I explore how ambition evolves...

**When Ambition Changes** What happens when the life you've been working towards no longer feels like the life you actually want? In this episode, I explore how ambition evolves through different seasons of life, why...

<p>Money is one of those things I sometimes wish didn't exist... but since it does, I want to be intentional about how I use it.</p><p><br></p><p>In this episode, I'm sharing how I (very imperfectly) use the VIP...

Money is one of those things I sometimes wish didn't exist... but since it does, I want to be intentional about how I use it. In this episode, I'm sharing how I (very imperfectly) use the VIP framework—Values, Identity...