Date Like A Nerd

Looking for your Player 2? Welcome to the Date Like A Nerd podcast, where your gamer skills, dice rolls, and cosplay become your greatest dating assets. This show is designed for shy, introverted nerds who want to find romance in a way that feels authentic and true to who they are. We throw out the mainstream dating rulebook and focus on real data, real stories, and real life experience from the world of nerd dating. Whether you are rolling for initiative at a D&D table, swiping right on a dating app, or making friends at conventions and Discord servers, we show you how to unlock romance side quests in true nerd style. Learn from nerds who found their partner, community organizers, and experts, to finally unlock your Player 2. Are you ready? If you want to learn more, go to https://www.datelikeanerd.com/links 📱You can also join me on Discord! <a href="https://www.datelikea

Date Like A Nerd is a society podcast hosted by Unknown Host, with 42 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Unknown Host hosts Date Like A Nerd, a society show with 42 episodes published.

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  Episode #41

  Why Getting Dates Doesn't Get You A Relationship, the Nerd Love Story of Chris and Anna

  Sep 16, 202650 min

  Giving up on dating is common if you focus on getting DATES when what you actually want is a relationship. But does dating actually lead to a long-term relationship? Sometimes, yes. But throughout all my surveys, most couples actually started as friends (no, most weren't just "bad at dating"). After all, many who are good at dating end up marrying their friend In this episode, Chris shares how he couldn't find someone to settle down with, even if he had no trouble getting dates or hookups. Apparently, those only happened because he was doing what he was "supposed to do": He dressed properly, tried to play the games that those women wanted, and never showed his nerd side. He was getting dates. And yet, he'd given up on dating as a means to find a wife. And then, Annah came into the picture. Not as someone he could realistically build a relationship with (she lived too far away). But as a fellow nerd he could just connect with over his love of Star Wars Soon, Instagram comments turned into a private conversation, which later developed into a strong friendship... with a little flirting on the side. If you've been focusing on getting dates but what you really want is a relationship with someone who loves you for who you are, this episode is for you. Listen to Chris and Annah's nerd love story and learn why dating may not be what you should be focusing on! FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 ️ Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord Chris' links: https://www.instagram.com/cinema.hooked/ https://www.threads.com/@cinema.hooked https://www.youtube.com/@CinemaHookedCHRIS facebook.com/CinemaHooked tiktok.com/@cinemahookedchris Related Episodes: Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez The Twitch Streamer on Discord, the Nerd Love Story of Luna and Jason From No Dates to Feeling Truly Seen and Accepted: Kirk's Story Cold Approaches Failed. One Night With New Friends Worked, Mrinal’s Nerd Dating Transformation Two Nerds Afraid of Rejection Who Wouldn't Be Engaged Without Their Friends, the Nerd Love Story of CJ and Ajax Timestamps for lazy nerds: 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:50 What Makes Chris a Nerd 00:01:41 A Social Media Love Story 00:06:33 How to Slide Into Her DMs 00:09:40 Leaving The Friend Zone 00:12:30 Giving Up On Dating 00:16:31 Finding Someone Special 00:20:11 Starting as Friends 00:25:00 Meeting In Person 00:34:34 Getting Cat-fished 00:38:19 Being Yourself 00:40:51 Getting Dates Doesn't Mean Getting a Relationship 00:47:24 Closing Thoughts Contact: dm@datelikeanerd.com or @datelikeanerd on social media

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  Episode #40

  From Horror Game Bait to Dating, Mariah and Corey's Nerd Love Story

  Aug 12, 202642 min

  If you're hoping that gaming turns into dating, you might be doing it backwards. The couples I surveyed who met through video games almost never started with romantic intent. They started as friends, full stop. And Mariah and Corey's story is no exception. Corey wasn't trying to meet anyone. He'd just gotten off the road as a truck driver, hadn't touched a video game in three years, and only logged into Dead by Daylight because his brother wouldn't stop bugging him about it. When Mariah joined, she was also brand new to the game and was getting used as bait by everyone else. Watching the group gang up on the new person is an easy thing to ignore, especially when she's not "your" friend to begin with. But Corey just quietly pulled her aside and showed her the ropes. It's a small, almost invisible decision that the others didn't bother making. Have you ever wondered if that kind of quiet, friendly consistency actually counts for anything? You might be surprised. Because when it comes to finding love through video games, that is how it usually works. Listen to learn how a horror game could turn into your nerd love story! FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 ️ Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord Mariah's Links: https://www.instagram.com/missmariahbcosplay/ Hot Topic partner link! lcshop.co/8kDBm2 Cosplay wishlist! ❤️ throne.com/missmariahbcosplay https://www.facebook.com/Missmariahbcosplay/ Corey's Links: https://www.instagram.com/sawyermedia.815/ whatnot.com/s/Gln62oxe Related Episodes: Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont” Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez How to Leave the Friend Zone: The Master Plan, the Nerd Love Story of Nicole & David Timestamps for lazy nerds: 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:46 What Makes Them Nerds 00:01:47 Dead by Daylight with Friends 00:04:48 The Ex In The Game 00:08:11 The Nice Guy 00:13:50 Getting Out Of The Game 00:18:22 Moving In Together As Friends 00:20:46 From Flatmates to Lovers 00:24:46 The Confession 00:28:05 The Fear of Rejection 00:34:22 The Importance of Friends 00:37:55 Closing Remarks Contact: dm@datelikeanerd.com or @datelikeanerd on social media

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  Episode #38

  Learn to Flirt Using Dungeons and Dragons, with DND Charli

  Jun 10, 202639 min

  🎲 Practicing flirting can feel creepy... unless you know where to do it safely. Bars, clubs, dating apps, or a real conversation with someone you actually like are where things can go very wrong. But nerds have an alternative that is both safe and fun. Where mistakes aren't punished, but celebrated! 🥳 🧠 Charli (aka DND Charli) is a science communicator, neurodivergent DM, and creator of the Your Brain on DND series on TikTok and Instagram. In this episode, she breaks down the neuroscience behind why TTRPGs can work as a social skills training ground, including flirting. From mirror neurons to the Proteus Effect, she covers why your brain can't fully tell the difference between what happens in-game and what happens in real life. 🗡️ When you play a confident character, your brain starts to build evidence that you can be confident. When you give a compliment in character, and it lands, your brain logs that as a win. This is the Proteus Effect in action: play a trait long enough, and it starts to become yours. Over time, those in-game reps transfer, not all at once, and not because you decided to, but subtly and automatically. 💬 We also get into flirting with your friends at the D&D table, how to do it without making things awkward, and why the in-character-to-real-life progression might be the low-pressure flirting practice you've been looking for. It's a safe space where you feel supported by people you've had countless adventures with. Romance can make for even more incredible stories for the bards to tell. 🎧 If you've been wanting to learn how to flirt without feeling like a creep, roll for initiative and Press Start! 👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️ Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality 📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord Charli's Links: https://www.instagram.com/dndcharli https://www.tiktok.com/@dnd_charli Related Episodes: The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger From No Dates to Feeling Truly Seen and Accepted: Kirk's Story Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez Dungeons and Dragons + TTRPGs: Where to Meet Nerds, with Sean (aka MrShickadance) Never Know What to Say? Play "Speak Without Freezing," with Catherine Richardson Timestamps for lazy nerds: 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:43 How TTRPGs Help with Social Skills 00:06:52 Become More Confident 00:13:41 Flirting with Your DnD Party 00:20:34 Just Be Yourself 00:30:05 Bonding With Players 00:34:45 Tips to Get Started 00:37:35 Contact #datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast Contact: dm@datelikeanerd.com or @datelikeanerd on social media

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  Episode #37

  Two Nerds Afraid of Rejection Who Wouldn't Be Engaged Without Their Friends, the Nerd Love Story of CJ and Ajax

  May 14, 202656 min

  🤨 Do you need friends if you want to find your Player 2? Not necessarily. But they can certainly help! From making introductions to inviting you to the right place at the right time, helping you overcome your fear of rejection, or dating one of them, friends can be the pathway to marriage. CJ and Ajax's story is one of the best examples. It includes every single one of these! ✅ 💌 In this episode, CJ shares how they met through a friend in common but couldn't make a move, afraid that they'd get rejected 👻 Fortunately, they had friends who refused to let them miss their shot. Not once. Not twice. Three times, their friends stepped in at just the right moment to keep the story moving forward 💪 👀 Because here's the thing nobody talks about: your social circle isn't just where you find dates. It's the supporting structure that makes dating possible in the first place. Without it, two people who were clearly meant to be together and lived 15 minutes away from each other might have stayed strangers forever. 🎧 Press Start and discover how finding the right friends can lead you to love! ❤️ 👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️ Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality 📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord Calix and Ajax's Links: https://www.instagram.com/pixelboycos/ https://www.instagram.com/seiphcos/ Related Episodes: Animé Los Angeles: Where to Meet Nerds, with Matt Cosplayers and Conventions, the Nerd Love Story of Elyse and Matt Rejected, Friendzoned, and Not Reading the Signals: the Nerd Love Story of Vir and Diego How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont” From Cosplay Competition to Long Distance Love: A Convention Crush Love Story with Bimini and Riv Timestamps for lazy nerds: 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:43 What Makes Calix a Nerd 00:02:09 Don't Hide That You're A Nerd 00:05:27 How it Started 00:10:51 Cosplay Conversations 00:16:42 Moving Things Forward 00:19:50 Convention 00:25:47 Friend Intervention #2 00:30:17 First Date Invite... As Friends 00:37:39 Friend Intervention #3 00:39:07 Failed Confession 00:41:15 Friend Intervention #4 00:45:36 Previous Dating Experience 00:48:48 Finding His Person 00:54:34 Closing #datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast #cosplay #cosplayer #cosplaycouple Contact: dm@datelikeanerd.com or @datelikeanerd on social media

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  Episode #36

  Never Know What to Say? Play "Speak Without Freezing," with Catherine Richardson

  Apr 16, 202638 min

  💬 You're in a group. You know you want to say something. You just can't find the right time. The conversation moves on, the moment passes, and you spend the rest of the evening wondering why it's so hard to just speak up 😶 🎮 In this episode, I talk to Catherine Richardson, a psychologist specializing in geek culture and mental health. She blends Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with gaming and pop culture to support neurodivergent professionals. And she just created something that might change how you think about social skills entirely. 🕹️ It's called "Speak Without Freezing," a free visual novel designed to help you practice what to say before you actually have to say it. Not by giving you a script to memorize, but by letting you rehearse in an environment where there's no social cost. Think of it as a dating sim, except instead of trying to win someone over, you're working on yourself 💪 ⚠️ But here's the challenge: practicing something in a game and actually doing it in real life are two very different things. So how does muscle memory work when the stakes are real? And what do you do when the social rules change depending on who you're with, what culture you're in, or even what room you walk into? 🗺️ 🧊 If you ever freeze up during conversations, go quiet at the worst moment, or wait so long to say something that everyone has already moved on, this episode is for you. 🎧 Press Start and learn how to speak without freezing! 🥶 👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️ Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality 📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord Catherine's Links: www.geekmentalwellbeing.com https://www.instagram.com/geekmentalwellbeing/ Related Episodes: Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann How to Approach Your Gym Crush (Without Being A Creep), with Jordan Yaklin Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow: the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin Introverted Nerds on Dating Apps, the Nerd Love Story of Phillip and Darcy Timestamps for lazy nerds: 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:00 Speak Without Freezing 00:03:19 How it Helps with Social Anxiety 00:07:37 Social Anxiety and Perfection 00:12:22 Skills to Learn 00:14:55 Dating Sims 00:19:37 How to Apply the Skills IRL 00:22:14 Playing the Game While in Therapy 00:23:57 Not Waiting for Perfection 00:25:46 Adapting to Different People 00:31:48 Social Anxiety and Cold Approaches 00:36:55 Catherine's Links Contact: dm@datelikeanerd.com or @datelikeanerd on social media

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