
Episode #55
Why We Love the Way We Do: Galit Atlas on Childhood Wounds and Adult Relationships
We like to believe that we enter our adult relationships as fully formed people, freely choosing whom we love and how we love them. But what if the frightened, ashamed, guilty, invisible—or even “chosen”—children we once were are still quietly making some of those decisions? Rabbi Elliot Cosgrove and Jon Frankel welcome internationally renowned psychoanalyst and bestselling author Dr. Galit Atlas , whose new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love, and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy , examines the unconscious connection between our earliest relationships and our adult love lives. Atlas explains why we repeatedly return to what feels familiar—even when the familiar once hurt us—and how childhood survival strategies can become patterns that follow us into marriage, intimacy, and family life. The conversation also turns toward Jewish experience and inherited trauma. Born in Israel to parents from Iran and Syria, Atlas reflects on growing up in the shadow of the Holocaust and amid Israel's own layers of trauma. She discusses how October 7 reopened deeper wounds in the Jewish psyche and how those events have entered the therapy room—sometimes exposing profound differences within marriages and families. Ultimately, Atlas offers a hopeful idea: our past shapes us, but it does not have to dictate our future. By recognizing the different selves we carry and understanding where our patterns began, we may gain greater freedom to create something new—in ourselves and in the relationships that matter most. Dr. Galit Atlas: https://www.galitatlas.com/ Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love : https://www.galitatlas.com/home-1-1 Rabbi Elliot Cosgrove: https://www.instagram.com/elliot_cosgrove https://x.com/RabbiCosgrove Park Avenue Synagogue: https://www.pasyn.org https://www.instagram.com/parkavenuesyn/# Jon Frankel: https://www.instagram.com/skifrankel Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

