Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing

After betrayal, many people seeking recovery become highly focused on their partner's reactions. This week Alana explores why using a betrayed partner's immediate emotional response as the measurement of recovery can...

They stopped the pornography. They ended the affair. They’re in therapy and doing the recovery work—so why do you still not feel safe? In this powerful conversation, Amie joins Luke Gordon and together they unpack the...

What does it really mean to be a safe person? This week, Alana is joined by Luke Gordon. Together they explore why physical protection is only one part of creating safety—and how emotional regulation, honesty...

This week Amie sits down with Susan Child of Sole Connections Academy to explore foot zoning, holistic wellness, body awareness, self-trust, boundaries, and healing after betrayal. Susan explains her approach to foot...

Listen to Part 1 HERE . This week, we continue exploring the journey from victimhood toward healing, reclaiming, and becoming the chooser. After betrayal trauma, it can be difficult to trust anyone—including yourself...

Betrayal can leave you feeling powerless. You may stop trusting your partner. You may stop trusting yourself. You may wonder what's wrong with you, blame yourself for what happened, or believe that things will never get...

Can recovery itself become a form of avoidance? This week, Alana Gordon explores a pattern that can quietly interfere with healing from compulsive sexual behavior and betrayal: using individual recovery work to avoid...

Betrayal doesn't just break trust—it can completely reshape how you experience rejection. In this conversation, Amie and Alana unpack why rejection sensitivity becomes so intense after betrayal trauma, how comparison...

Rejection sensitivity can quietly shape addiction, relationships, and recovery. In this episode, we discuss why individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behavior often experience intense fear of rejection—not as an...

Writing an impact letter can feel overwhelming, emotional, and even re-traumatizing. So why do it? Amie and Alana unpack the purpose behind this powerful recovery tool, explain how it fits into therapeutic disclosure...

It's one of the most common—and heartbreaking—questions after betrayal trauma. This week Amie and Alana discuss what healing actually looks like after betrayal trauma, why recovery often feels painfully slow, and the...

Why does accountability feel so difficult after betrayal? For many betrayed partners, the answer seems obvious: if someone truly understood the pain they caused, they would simply own it. But healing is often more...

Many people spend years reading books, listening to podcasts, attending therapy, and understanding addiction. Yet they still feel stuck. This week Luke and Alana explain why information alone never creates...

Why does an emotionally shut down man struggle to change—even when he genuinely wants to? In this follow-up episode, Luke and Alana respond to listener questions about emotional shutdown, nervous system healing, and...

What does an emotionally shut down man actually look like? Spoiler:Usually not what people think. In this powerful conversation, Luke and Alana explore the hidden reality of emotional shutdown in men—especially the...