Betrayed & Stayed

How do you know if an unfaithful partner has truly changed? In this episode, we explore what genuine reconciliation after infidelity actually requires from the unfaithful partner. We discuss the difference between...

One thing we don't anticipate when healing from and reconciling after infidelity is the discomfort we feel during moments of joy. Things seem better in the relationship, and yet we don't know what to do with the 'happy'...

It's easy to lose yourself in affair recovery. Emotional upheaval, deep grief, trauma, and a constant state of fight or flight turns us into someone we don't recognize anymore. There is a path back to "you." But it...

<p>We all do it. It's hard not to. We stalk their social media. We ruminate over their looks, their photos, who they are with, and what it was about them that attracted our partner. This is normal after infidelity, but...

<p>Should you reconcile after discovering betrayal? You may want to, but should you? It's oftentimes a scary situation to navigate because there are no guarantees that reconciliation will ultimately end in a healthy...

<p>This is a PART 2 of a conversation that has been asked for over and over again from my listeners, clients, and Facebook group members. Finding an unfaithful person willing to be vulnerable and honest with a...

<p>This is a conversation that has been asked for over and over again from my listeners, clients, and Facebook group members. Finding an unfaithful person willing to be vulnerable and honest with a conversation such as...

<p>After infidelity, it's easy to slip into what I call the "pick me" dance… trying harder, giving more, being easier to love, all in an effort to feel chosen again.</p> <p>In this episode, we're not talking about why...

<p>I have been waiting so long to have this conversation with a betrayed man. As a coach that primarily works with women, I have had one long-term betrayed male client. And I noticed some differences with how he...

<p>Are you stuck replaying the affair in your mind?</p> <p>If you're experiencing intrusive thoughts after cheating, graphic "mind movies," obsessive replay, or nighttime anxiety, this episode is for you.</p> <p>After...

<p>We hear so many things about infidelity on social media. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Some of it is mostly true. Some is just nonsense. And most is based on opinions that come from personal experience. Either...

<p >After infidelity, many betrayed partners want to trust again — but find they simply can't.</p> <p >In this episode, we talk about why trust doesn't return through promises, reassurance, or willpower, and what...

<p >You chose to stay after infidelity.<br /> So why does it still hurt so much?</p> <p >In this episode, we talk about why betrayed partners can't simply "move on," even when the affair is over and they've decided to...

<p >In this bonus episode, I respond to a popular influencer whose content focuses on teaching people how to "keep their partner happy." While this message can sound harmless or even helpful, it often carries a deeper...

<p >What happens after you decide to stay — even temporarily — following infidelity?</p> <p >For many betrayed partners, staying doesn't bring relief. It brings confusion, shame, pressure, and a constant sense of...