Episode #34
"A Girl Who Rejected Me 8 Years Ago is Now Divorced With 2 Kids and Finally Wants to Date Me!"
Here's who I'm giving REAL dating advice for men to in this episode: - A 26-year-old who started dating 8 months ago and has gotten his heart rekt already (the girl told him she wanted to take things slow). - A guy who had a girl with a long-distance boyfriend flirting with him HARD, but he blew it. - A guy who has been contacted by a girl that rejected him before she had 2 kids and is now looking for a life raft. - A guy who recently started cold approaching and is worried about being seen by people he knows (the comments had it all wrong). - A 36-year-old, bald, short guy who has had absolutely no success in dating. Subscribe for more Reddit dating stories, dating advice for men, and dating tips. Message me or support the show: https://linktr.ee/roycalvin Dating questions answered this episode: Why did she lose romantic interest after three months of dating? Waiting until the fifth date to kiss and failing to create opportunities for intimacy may have contributed to the loss of attraction. The advice is to escalate earlier, try for a kiss on the first or second date, and create practical opportunities to spend time alone together. How often should you see someone when you are newly dating? Eight dates over three months is not necessarily too slow. Dating once or twice a week is not a requirement, and a pace of roughly eight dates in three months can be perfectly reasonable when both people are busy. What should you do if you live with your parents and have nowhere private for a date? You still need to figure out the logistics of spending time alone. That could mean using a separate living space, planning an activity that naturally leads somewhere private, or arranging another practical solution rather than repeatedly going on dates with no path toward intimacy. What should you do if a female friend acts romantic but says you are just friends? Do not keep asking her to define the relationship. Her words should be taken seriously, but if you are interested, make your intentions clear through your actions and ask her to spend time with you one-on-one rather than trying to get verbal confirmation of what the relationship means. How can you tell if a woman is flirting or just naturally affectionate? Look at how she behaves around other men before assuming that physical affection means romantic interest. Someone who is naturally touchy with many friends may behave intimately without intending to flirt, so the surrounding context matters. Should you stay friends with a woman you actually want to date? If you are attracted to her, pretending you only want friendship can keep you stuck in a situation that is not what you actually want. Make a move, accept the possibility of rejection, and then decide whether continuing the friendship makes sense. Should you date a woman who rejected you years ago and now wants a relationship? Past rejection alone does not have to determine the decision, because people and circumstances change. In this case, however, the major issue is that she now has two children, which the advice treats as a reason to walk away rather than overlooking the situation simply because she is interested now. Is it normal for a man to go out alone to meet women? Yes. Going out specifically to meet women is presented as a deliberate dating strategy rather than something embarrassing. If meeting women is not happening naturally through your hobbies or daily routine, you may need to intentionally create opportunities to talk to them. Does “just do your hobbies and you will meet women” actually work? Not necessarily. If spending years playing video games, going to the gym, or doing hobbies has not resulted in meeting women, continuing to wait for dating opportunities to appear naturally may not change anything. The alternative presented is to deliberately talk to single women through approaches, dating apps, or actual dating events. What should you do if years of dating rejection have destroyed your confidence? Stop assuming that more of the same approach will eventually produce different results. The advice is that years of rejection can understandably make someone negative, but the solution is to change the dating strategy and create more opportunities to actually talk to single women rather than relying on female friends, social events, or expensive dating coaches.
