
Episode #104
How to Stop Disappearing Under Everyone Else’s Needs with Marie Smith
What You’ll Learn In This Episode Why adults struggle to find real community How service can slowly become self-abandonment Why knowing your values matters The connection between achievement and self-worth How saying no can make room for healthier yeses Why receiving help is part of grace Simple ways to calm stress in the moment Key Takeaways ✅ Community becomes easier to recognize when you know who you are. ✅ Your values are often revealed by where your time, money, and energy actually go. ✅ Serving everyone else can become unhealthy when it disconnects you from your own needs. ✅ Saying no is not selfish when it allows you to steward your life more faithfully. ✅ When you always volunteer first, you may be preventing someone else from stepping up. ✅ Accepting help allows other people to participate in the grace God may want to give through them. ✅ Clarity often comes when we slow down enough to listen. ✅ You can have needs, acknowledge those needs, and still live a life of service. Timestamps & Highlights 00:00 Losing yourself while caring for everyone else 00:35 Meet Marie Smith and Golden Hour Coaching 01:54 Why community feels harder as adults 04:30 Knowing who you are before finding your people 08:00 Marie’s story of losing herself in motherhood and service 11:41 Therapy, reframing, and learning the power of no 13:18 Hearing God after letting go of false identities 18:05 Achievement, productivity, and tying worth to doing 20:06 Learning to receive help after major surgery 26:02 Saying no, the sacred pause, and making room for better yeses 31:17 Stress tools, the SOS guide, and where to find Marie Resources Mentioned Stress SOS Guide A practical guide Marie created to help people calm themselves in moments of stress. Text SOS to 66866 . Golden Hour Coaching Marie’s coaching, resources, retreats, and connection point. https://www.goldenhourcoaching.com Jesus in My Pocket: Stories of Grace and Final Chapters in the Nursing Home Marie’s upcoming book, shaped by her years serving elderly and homebound residents. Instagram and Facebook Find Marie at @mygoldenhourcoaching . Connect with Jim Website: http://www.leadwithjim.com ️ Ask a Question: https://www.leadwithjim.com/ask Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leadwithjim ▶️ YouTube: https://www.leadwithjim.live Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/leadwithjim Support & Engage with the Show ✅ Subscribe to The Unshakable Life wherever you listen: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | iHeartRadio ✅ Leave a 5-star review if this episode encouraged your faith. ✅ For more faith-driven leadership content, visit leadwithjim.com. Thanks for listening! Never miss an episode of The Unshakable Life. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast app. And if this conversation helped you think differently about joy, identity, or learning how to seize the day again, share it with a friend who needs the reminder that they are not stuck where they are. Affiliate Disclosure: Some of the links in the notes may be affiliate links, meaning we earn a small commission if you make a purchase, at no extra cost to you. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

