The Turned-On Couple Podcast

<p>Three conversations with clients inspired me to write about pleasurable touch, and why many people can dish it out, but they can’t take it! Let me explain.</p><p>The first client lamented the permanent closure of her...

<p>Many of the clients I see in my coaching practice are dealing with the same thing, even if they describe it differently.</p><p>They don’t feel sexually confident anymore.</p><p>Not necessarily because something huge...

<p>For a time, I got hooked on the Netflix reality show Married at First Sight.</p><p>The season I watched followed four couples who agreed to arranged marriages, meeting for the first time, sight unseen, on the day of...

<p>Warning: This song can get stuck in your head. </p><p>It’s the Pointer Sisters’ song, I Want a Man with a Slow Hand</p><p>“I want a man with a slow hand</p><p>I want a lover with an easy touch</p><p>I want somebody...

<p>In the early 70s my female cousin was a primary contributor to my early sex education when I needed it most. For instance, she clarified that I couldn’t get pregnant by dancing with a boy, no matter how close we got...

<p>There are places on my daily walk where I pick a small lavender bud to crush in my hands and inhale its calming fragrance. I pass a running creek that sparkles in the sun. I see dogs of all kinds engaged in their own...

<p></p><p>I’m elaborating on a Substack Note I wrote this week in response to Carol Buckfire Benson’s recent post.</p><p>I’ve noticed, both in other women and in myself, the common discomfort of taking up too much time...

<p>A client told me she was doing a “Marie Kondo” on her closet, ridding herself of anything that no longer gave her ‘joy’. </p><p>We went on to talk about her sex life with her partner that included a nagging...

<p></p><p>Our culture is in a multi-decade ‘sexual revolution’ that began in the 1960s, but we’re far from being free from the deeply ingrained programming that sex is still a fundamentally shameful topic of...

<p>“We haven’t had sex in months. This is not what I signed up for when we got together five years ago!”</p><p>These words from a past client ring in my head now and then, when I think about couples who are dissatisfied...

<p>This chapter is for a subsection of women, and the people who want to understand those women better.</p><p>A therapist friend of mine once asked me if many of the women I work with ever confess that they’re just done...

<p>We’re all on a wild ride together. There’s no question about that. Every part of our lives — including health, politics, cultural norms, and the environment — is in crisis. Depression and anxiety are skyrocketing. I...

<p>With this post, we are beginning Part 3 of the Turned-On Couple. (Chapters 45-69)</p><p>In the journey of long-term love and passion, few aspects of a relationship hold as much potential for connection and...

<p>Ever wonder what happens in someone else’s bedroom? We all do, right?</p><p>Consider this your “digital keyhole” into the bedroom of one of my coaching couples, Thomas and Kelly, and how they applied some of the...

<p>I won’t say exactly how long cannabis has been in my life, but the release of Dark Side of the Moon and my first joint fell in the same calendar year!</p><p>I feel like a relic of the past when I remember terminology...