The Powerful Man Show

The Powerful Man is a show for married businessmen looking to improve their relationships, their health, their businesses, and themselves. Your hosts, Doug Holt and Tim Matthews have decades of experience helping married businessmen step into their power, live up to their potential, and live a life they love. The Powerful Man Show tackles conversations and topics designed to help men become better fathers, lovers, husbands, and leaders in their communities. If this sounds like you, we encourage you to subscribe and also head over to thepowerfulman.com for more information.

The Powerful Man Show is a education podcast hosted by Tim Matthews & Doug Holt, with 1,000 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Tim Matthews & Doug Holt hosts The Powerful Man Show, a education show with 1,000 episodes published.

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  Episode #1197

  The Journey of Lifting Others: How Helping Others Helps Us All [Revisit]

  Oct 6, 202629 min

  Episode #1197 What happens when you believe you've outgrown the people around you? It's easy to think the next level of growth means surrounding yourself only with people who are further ahead. But in this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Coach Mike Brown explore why some of your greatest growth can come from helping the men behind you while continuing to learn from those ahead. Mike explains that helping another man reach his next level creates an opportunity to deepen your own understanding. Doug connects this to mastery: if you think you understand something, try teaching it. Explaining a skill, practicing it, and helping someone else apply it creates repetitions that simply knowing the information doesn't. They also discuss humility and the danger of believing someone has nothing left to teach you. Whether it's business, relationships, parenting, or personal development, Doug shares why he continues finding lessons in conversations with people at every stage of the journey. The conversation then moves into parenting and marriage. Mike shares how teaching his children to speak up has forced him to listen when they challenge his own behavior. That same principle applies to learning relationship skills. You may understand a communication technique intellectually, but using it naturally with your wife requires practice. Growth isn't about reaching a level where you no longer need other people. It's about continuing to learn, practice, teach, and reach back to help the next man. Timestamp Chapters 00:00 Why helping others helps you grow 01:25 Have you outgrown the people around you? 02:52 Why teaching creates mastery 03:41 Learning from people ahead and behind you 05:25 Why believing you know everything stops growth 07:01 Humility and learning from unexpected people 09:55 Helping the men coming up behind you 10:20 What your children can teach you about yourself 12:02 Teaching children to speak their truth 12:48 Mike's daughter stands up for herself 14:02 Free Book 16:35 Why relationship skills require repetition 18:45 Reach down and help another man rise 19:28 Practicing communication until it becomes natural 21:40 Staying in the conversation of relationships 23:31 Listening to feelings instead of repeating words 24:45 Helping your wife feel seen and heard 27:21 Practice the skills instead of just consuming information If your marriage has lost some of the love, admiration, or respect it once had, Doug offers his book, A Man's Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It , as a practical action plan. Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch this revisit episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/V-37GQlozqk The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, and relationship tools that help men continue growing while supporting the people around them.

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  Episode #1196

  The Two-Year Warning: Women's Journey Before Divorce

  Oct 3, 202621 min

  Episode #1196 Has your wife been asking you to get help, try counseling, find a coach, attend a retreat, or simply do something about your marriage? You may hear it as criticism. She may be trying to tell you something much more important. In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Erin Holt discuss what may be happening long before a wife starts seriously considering divorce. Erin shares the female perspective on the years of conversations, attempts at connection, requests for change, and emotional work that can happen before a woman reaches the point where she's ready to leave. For many husbands, the announcement that their wife is unhappy or considering divorce feels sudden. From her perspective, however, the problem may have been building for years. Erin explains that women may repeatedly initiate conversations, suggest marriage counseling, research programs, read books, or work on themselves because they still want the marriage to work. When those attempts are repeatedly dismissed or nothing consistently changes, she may eventually stop trying. Doug and Erin also discuss why getting help isn't an admission that something is wrong with you. Relationship skills are learned skills. Men routinely invest time, money, and energy into becoming better businessmen. Applying some of that same growth mindset to your marriage can change how you show up as a husband, father, and leader. The message is simple: if your wife keeps asking you to do something, listen before she stops asking. Timestamp Chapters 00:00 The warning signs men miss before divorce 00:41 Why your wife keeps asking you to get help 01:29 How common is it for women to ask their husbands to change? 02:33 How far along is she when she asks for counseling? 03:06 The emotional work happening before divorce 05:42 Why divorce can feel sudden to husbands 07:03 What changes when a man finally takes action 08:05 Why investing in your marriage matters 09:10 Scales Free Training 10:13 How a stronger marriage can affect the rest of your life 11:32 The signs your wife may already be giving you 12:12 Why women ask their husbands to get help 13:50 Getting help isn't a character flaw 14:24 Why personal growth can rebuild hope 17:33 Are you enjoyable to be married to? 18:29 Developing yourself even when your marriage is struggling 20:04 Listen to the hints before they stop If your marriage has lost some of its love, respect, admiration, or intimacy, the Scales Free Training explains how you may have gotten there and provides a step-by-step methodology for beginning to rebuild it. Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/h2rGbkTBEPE The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, and relationship tools for stronger marriages and families.

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  Episode #1195

  The Marriage Blueprint: Changing Behaviors for a Healthier Relationship

  Oct 1, 202625 min

  Episode #1195 Does it feel like your wife is constantly correcting you? Maybe it's how you load the dishwasher, handle the laundry, take care of the house, or follow through on something you said you'd do. It can start to feel like she's controlling, nagging, or treating you more like an employee than her husband. In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Erin Holt explore what may actually be happening underneath this dynamic. Erin explains how couples often enter marriage with completely different blueprints for how a household should operate. Those expectations usually come from what they saw growing up, but they're rarely discussed. Over time, unclear responsibilities, unfinished tasks, and unmet expectations can create resentment on both sides. Doug takes the conversation a step further by asking an important question: Was your wife always this controlling or critical? If the answer is no, then something changed. Doug and Erin discuss how withdrawing, avoiding difficult conversations, failing to follow through, and leaving one partner to manage the household can slowly change the relationship. When your wife feels like she has to continually remind you, manage you, or close the loop on unfinished responsibilities, trust and sexual polarity can suffer. The solution isn't controlling your wife or simply trying harder to keep her happy. It starts with self-leadership, clear agreements, honest communication, and consistently doing what you say you're going to do. Timestamp Chapters 00:00 Why does your wife constantly correct you? 01:35 The marriage blueprint you bring from childhood 03:14 Covert contracts and household expectations 04:20 How nice guy syndrome changes the relationship 06:05 When your wife becomes the household manager 06:28 Resentment, nagging, and declining attraction 07:00 Was your wife always this controlling? 08:19 Creating clear roles and responsibilities at home 08:52 Withdrawing, shutting down, and safety in marriage 09:31 Why your wife may struggle to relax around you 10:28 Stop sweating the small stuff 11:54 Free Book 12:47 How to break the cycle of criticism and resentment 13:46 Running your household with better systems 14:23 Rebuilding self-leadership and consistency 16:39 Why marriage agreements need to evolve 17:22 How humor can diffuse unnecessary conflict 19:04 Changing your behavior to change the relationship dynamic 21:09 Becoming a partner your wife can rely on 22:46 What your children learn from your marriage 24:21 Why changing how you show up matters If your marriage has lost some of the love, admiration, or respect it once had, Doug offers his book, A Man's Guide on How to Save Your Marriage Without Talking About It , as a practical action plan: https://thepowerfulman.com/freebook Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RTu8Yj_OryA The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching and relationship tools for stronger marriages, families, and lives.

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  Episode #1194

  Stagnation to Transformation: A Guide for Lost Men [Revisit]

  Sep 29, 202618 min

  Episode #1194 This is a revisit of an important TPM conversation for men who feel stuck, stagnant, or unsure what comes next. You've built the career. You've handled the responsibilities. You've checked many of the boxes you thought would create fulfillment. But somewhere along the way, you lost some of your energy, passion, or sense of direction. In this revisit episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt sits down with Erin Holt to explore what it looks like when a man knows he's capable of more but isn't taking action toward it, and what that experience can be like for the woman beside him. Erin shares why a difficult season itself isn't the problem. Everyone goes through periods of uncertainty, transition, and change. The bigger issue is staying there without taking responsibility for moving forward. From a woman's perspective, watching her husband lose his energy and motivation can be exhausting and painful. She may know there's more inside him while watching him choose not to access it. Over time, she may begin taking on more leadership and responsibility within the family simply because someone has to. Doug and Erin also discuss why purpose doesn't always need to be one permanent mission you discover and follow forever. Sometimes you've simply outgrown the way you've been living. The first step isn't necessarily finding a new purpose. It may be rediscovering yourself. Timestamp Chapters 00:00 What it's like when a man stops living to his potential 00:31 Feeling stuck, stagnant, and unsure what comes next 01:21 When you've checked the boxes but still feel unfulfilled 02:31 A woman's perspective on a husband who feels lost 04:49 The difference between a difficult season and staying stuck 06:18 How stagnation changes the dynamic in marriage 07:27 Why settling for average becomes a problem 09:07 Complaining, disconnection, and quiet desperation 10:27 Why watching your partner give up is exhausting 11:04 Scales Free Training 12:05 What it means to outgrow the way you're living 13:27 Why personal growth starts with yourself 14:00 How developing yourself affects every area of life 15:30 Finding yourself before searching for your purpose If your marriage has lost some of the love, respect, admiration, or intimacy it once had, the Scales Free Training gives you a practical methodology for understanding what happened and what you can do next: Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch this revisit episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/6IK4KyvhRL0 The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, and tools for creating stronger relationships and more fulfilling lives.

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  Episode #1193

  Crucial Conversations on Self-Care and Partnership Dynamics

  Sep 26, 202629 min

  Episode #1193 When does taking care of yourself become abandoning your partner, and when does constantly taking care of everyone else become self-sacrifice? In this episode of The TPM Show, Doug Holt and Christopher Hansen tackle a question many husbands and fathers struggle with: how do you make time for yourself without leaving your wife feeling like she's carrying the family alone? Doug explains how two unhealthy patterns can develop. On one side, a man works hard, provides for his family, and quietly expects something in return. Without ever discussing those expectations with his wife, resentment builds when his needs aren't met. On the other side, a man becomes the martyr. He handles everything, puts himself last, and keeps pushing until he eventually burns out. Neither creates the partnership he actually wants. Doug and Chris discuss covert contracts, communication, burnout, and why healthy self-care isn't about checking out from your responsibilities. It's about communicating with your wife, understanding how your choices affect the family, and creating agreements that allow both partners to get what they need. Chris also shares his own tendency to carry too much until his wife reminds him to slow down and do something that fills him back up. That leads to a practical discussion about scheduling self-care, rediscovering activities you genuinely enjoy, and surrounding yourself with men who will hold you accountable. Timestamp Chapters 00:00 Self-care, sacrifice, and partnership 02:03 When does self-care become abandonment? 02:24 Covert contracts and unspoken expectations 06:27 Why constantly putting yourself last creates resentment 08:54 Communication before taking time for yourself 10:00 How checking out affects your wife and marriage 12:14 When you're the man carrying too much 12:48 Scales Free Training 13:50 Recognizing burnout before you crash 14:17 Creating systems that protect your energy 15:33 Why self-care needs to go on the calendar 18:53 Rediscovering what actually fills your cup 22:04 Creating self-care agreements with your wife 24:40 Why men need accountability from other men 26:43 Asking your wife if she feels abandoned If you've lost some of the love, respect, admiration, or intimacy in your marriage, the Scales Free Training walks through how you got there and a step-by-step methodology for rebuilding it: Prefer to watch instead of listen? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nZTEy4hImOU The Powerful Man helps businessmen become stronger husbands, fathers, and leaders through practical coaching, brotherhood, and tools for stronger marriages and personal growth.

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