
Episode #128
Episode 128: To Have or Have Not: Discernment, Desire & Responsible Parenthood
What happens when you and your spouse have prayerfully discerned that now is not the time to welcome another child—but then the fertile window arrives, desire increases, and suddenly that decision doesn't seem so certain? Is this a genuine invitation from God to reconsider, or are we allowing the desires of the moment to override a decision made in prayer and peace? In this candid episode of The NFP Podcast, Amylynn and Emily explore one of the more challenging aspects of Natural Family Planning: honoring discernment when practicing self-mastery requires sacrifice. Drawing on Catholic teaching, Ignatian principles of discernment, and their own experiences in marriage, they discuss the relationship between openness to life and responsible parenthood—and why these two beautiful responsibilities should never be separated. Together, they explore: - Why the fertile window may not be the best time to reconsider a previously discerned decision to avoid pregnancy. - The difference between genuine openness to life and allowing heightened desire to direct our decisions. - How the virtue of chastity and the practice of self-mastery strengthen marriage. - Why the needs of our existing children, our health, and our current season of life deserve thoughtful consideration. - How couples can revisit their discernment with greater peace and intentionality. - Why abstinence, though difficult, can become an opportunity for spiritual growth and deeper marital love. This conversation isn't about diminishing the goodness of sexual intimacy or the extraordinary gift of a new child. It's about recognizing that both are gifts worthy of thoughtful, prayerful discernment. NFP isn't merely fertility awareness. It's an invitation to grow in virtue. Whether you're navigating the challenges of periodic abstinence, wondering if your family is complete, longing for another baby, or simply seeking to live your marriage more faithfully, this episode invites you to consider what it means to love responsibly. Join Amylynn and Emily for an honest conversation about desire, sacrifice, discernment, and the beautiful—and sometimes difficult—call to seek God's will in marriage. Subscribe to The NFP Podcast for new episodes every Wednesday. Have a question or a story to share? We'd love to hear from you at thenfpshow@gmail.com. Love responsibly! Resources: 1. Fr. Tad: https://youtu.be/yzTyMxERhlg?si=blOUB8hcSj_BUOeF 2. Fr. Mark: https://youtu.be/37W_ICkzsz4?si=diulSr6sHAMQACnN 3. Ignatian principles of discernment: https://www.discerninghearts.com/catholic-podcasts/dos1-fr-timothy-gallagher-discernment-of-spirits-part-1-introduction-to-the-spiritual-exercises-of-st-igantius-of-loyola/






