Episode #30
What Your Kids Feel During Divorce: Parenting Through Separation with Dr. Vanessa Lapointe
Supporting women and men navigating separation and divorce across Canada with trusted legal, financial, parenting, emotional, and practical guidance. In this episode of The Divorce Circle Podcast, Sabeena Bubber is joined by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, bestselling author, parenting educator, international speaker, and former practicing psychologist. When parents divorce, much of the focus naturally falls on the adults. But what is happening for the children? Dr. Vanessa explains why children's behaviour is often a signal rather than a problem, how children absorb the emotional energy around them, and what parents can do to create emotional safety while their family structure is changing. They discuss how to talk to children about divorce, what children need most from their parents, navigating two homes, avoiding loyalty conflicts, handling difficult transitions, and why the idea that “kids are resilient” may not tell the whole story. Most importantly, Dr. Vanessa offers a child centred perspective on how parents can remain their children's steady “big people” even when their own lives feel anything but steady. If you're navigating divorce with children, this conversation offers practical perspective, reassurance, and a reminder that you don't have to be a perfect parent to help your children through a difficult transition. Learn more about Dr. Vanessa Lapointe at https://drvanessalapointe.com/ Learn more about The Divorce Circle at https://www.divorcecircle.ca/
