
Episode #17
The Pick Me Agenda | SZN 4 Episode 17
This week on The Black Gay Agenda , Micah B, Dupree and AP are getting into pick-me culture in the Black gay community and the ways we sometimes change ourselves to be accepted, desired or chosen. What does being a “pick me” actually look like for Black gay men? The fellas unpack gay men who distance themselves from other gay men, the pressure to perform masculinity, internalized homophobia, masc-for-masc culture, femininity, dating and desirability, and the idea that staying home, having less sex or avoiding queer spaces somehow makes someone more relationship-worthy. Then the conversation gets personal: Have you ever wanted somebody to pick you so badly that you stopped picking yourself? Dupree opens up about toning down his femininity, AP reflects on changing parts of himself while dating, and Micah shares how seeking his father’s approval affected the way he lived his life and approached relationships. Plus, AP drops a VERY interesting take about gay men who love sports that the Pushers are definitely going to have something to say about. Ultimately, The Pick Me Agenda is about what happens when you stop performing for everybody else, embrace who you actually are and finally choose yourself. This Week: Micah B, Dupree & AP Producer: Justin B. Smith 40 FOR 40: HELP US TAKE SEASON 5 INTO THE STUDIO We want Season 5 of The Black Gay Agenda to be fully in studio, and we need the Pushers to help us get there. We’re asking 40 Pushers to give $40 toward making that goal a reality. Can’t give $40? Give $4, $10, $14 or whatever you can. Every contribution helps, and you can also support us by sharing the campaign with someone who believes in independent Black queer media. Cash App: https://cash.app/$BlackGayAgenda PayPal: https://paypal.me/blackgayagenda FOLLOW THE BLACK GAY AGENDA Instagram: https://instagram.com/theblackgayagenda YouTube: https://youtube.com/@blackgayagenda FOLLOW MICAH B https://instagram.com/itsmicahb FOLLOW DUPREE https://instagram.com/dupreetheartist FOLLOW AP https://instagram.com/wheresalexpenn FOLLOW JUSTIN B. SMITH https://instagram.com/thejustinbsmith New episodes of The Black Gay Agenda drop every Friday. Join the conversation and become one of The Pushers .



