The Affair Recovery Room

Long before we could think about it, we learned how close was safe to get. Those patterns (researchers call them attachment styles) quietly shape how we handle conflict, disappointment, and closeness for the rest of our...

Three conversations. Three very different women. One idea that surfaced in all three: good sex doesn't begin with technique, and it doesn't begin with your partner. It begins with being honest about yourself. In this...

Episode Notes You apologized. You meant it. It didn't land. If that's happened to you, on either side of the conversation, this episode is about why. Two words in, an apology can still be intact. "I'm sorry." Nothing...

After an affair, the sexual relationship rarely returns to what it was. Some couples find themselves in an unexpected surge of intensity. Others can't imagine being touched at all. Most land somewhere in between, unsure...

For many couples, especially those recovering from infidelity, sex carries an impossible weight. The betrayed partner may feel pressure to perform, to compete, to prove something. The involved partner may be desperate...

Sexual shame rarely announces itself. It settles in early—a look on a parent's face, a warning message from the pulpit, a silence where an honest conversation should have been—and it quietly teaches us that something...

In this first PageTalk episode of the podcast, Tim revisits his recent article The Betrayal Often Begins Before the Affair , which was posted on AffairHealing.com. Written after the release of the previous episode (...

Suzanne Leydecker built a life that looked good from the outside: a husband at Goldman Sachs, children, a home in New York. Then one night, over what had been an ordinary date-night dinner, he told her he was leaving...

If you've been betrayed, you already know that the pain doesn't stay in the past. It follows you into ordinary moments—a song, a smell, a place, a glance at a phone—and suddenly you're flooded all over again. That's not...

<p >Six years ago, Elisa's husband told her he was leaving their marriage for another woman. In the original three-part "Elisa's Story" series, she shared the raw experience of that first year: the shock, the grief, the...

<p >Joni Woods grew up with a clear picture of what marriage was supposed to look like—and an equally clear sense of what a faithful wife was supposed to do when it didn't. For fifteen years, she stayed in a marriage...

<p >What makes a man emotionally unavailable? And what does it take to change that? In this episode, Tim Tedder sits down with Jason Lange, a men's coach and group facilitator, to explore one of the most underaddressed...

<p >The hardest part of healing isn't the moment you decide to forgive. It's every ordinary moment after that—the birthday parties, the graduations, the holidays—where you choose it again and again.</p><p >In this final...

<p >Affairs often have multiple victims. This episode gives voice to some of them.</p><p >Tim and Konnie's story has been told, in their own words, across two honest episodes. But there were others in that story, too...

<p >In this second episode of A Conversation with My Ex, Tim Tedder and his ex-wife Konnie talk about the disclosure of Tim's affair—first the partial truth, then the full confession he chose to make a week later.</p><p...