Supporting Physician Spouses

My guest, Viola Enns Woelk, has spent the last few years studying, and living. Viola spent years as a nurse before life circumstances led her to give up her licence. No nursing shortage in Canada at the time, her...

Kayla's husband promised her he wouldn't be a surgeon. Then he promised he wouldn't be one of the hard ones. Then he became an orthopaedic surgeon. If you laughed and winced at the same time just now, you're in the...

The week we recorded this episode, Christina Musgrave's washing machine, dishwasher, and refrigerator were all broken. The dog was sick. Her daughter was starting school. Her husband had been on call for what felt like...

There's a version of physician wellness we've all quietly accepted. The physician finds something that fills them back up. Golf. The gym. A solo trip somewhere. And the family waits for them to come home. Nobody's wrong...

The Lindsay Clancy case opened a lot of important conversations. I was inside one of them last week, talking about the maternal mental health side of what happened. Today I want to stay inside the same story and move to...

A woman who did everything the system tells you to do... reached out early, trusted her providers, brought every insider advantage a medical family has to the table... and it still nearly wasn't enough. When Emily E...

My kids went back to school on August 13th. I know it feels a little early, but that is our reality. And over the next few weeks, my college kids head back too, which means our household is going from seven people to...

On June 26th, 2014, I stopped writing. I know the date because I looked it up. What I didn't need to look up was the feeling I had when I closed that laptop. For years I had been writing to women who were a season or...

There is a word Aditi Pemmaraju refuses to use. "Trailing spouse." She won't say it. She says "lighthouse spouse" instead, and by the end of this conversation, I think you'll understand exactly why. Aditi met her...

There was a stretch of residency when I couldn't tell you what month it was without checking my phone. The days just bled into each other. Getting the kids up, breakfast, nap time, pickup, dinner, bedtime, and then the...

When we're deep in the hard seasons, we invest so much imagination in what's missing, what we don't have just yet, what life will look like on the other side. We almost never turn that same imagination toward the woman...

That gap, between how capable you are and how out of control your money feels, is exactly where James lives professionally. He's a fee-only fiduciary who works specifically with physician families. We started with the...

Three posts landed in my feed within a few days of each other. None of them were mine to write, but I couldn't stop thinking about how all three were describing women. If you see your spouse as a paycheck and he sees...

Someone looked at my kitchen and decided my inner life was solved. I've been thinking about that comment for a long time now, the way I do with the strange ones that cross my feed. Because it said something true about...

The quiet, invisible weight of living a life that looks charmed from the outside while you quietly hold it all together from the inside. That is where Hayley Harlock and I found each other, somewhere around 2018...