Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur The podcast for high-achievers who have lost themselves inside the life they built. You have achieved things most people only dream of. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognising yourself in any of it. Not because something went wrong. Because you outgrew the version of you that started. Maybe it was a layoff. A career that ended. A role you walked away from. A life that no longer fits. Or the quiet realisation, in the middle of an ordinary Tuesday, that you don't know who you are anymore. Starting Over, Being You is the weekly podcast for women who have done all the work: the therapy, the coaching, the mindset, the books, and are still stuck. Not because they lack insight. Because the version of them that built the last chapter cannot author the next one. The one thing that cannot be automated, outsourced, or made redundant is you. The specific, irreplaceable way you operate, feel, think, lead, and make decisions. But only if you know who you are. Each week, Dr. Amen Kaur draws on the latest research in neuroscience, psychology, and human behaviour to answer the question underneath every other question: Who am I now, and what do I build from here? This is not personal development. This is identity work. It is precise, evidence-based, and built for the woman intelligent enough to know that becoming herself requires more than a new strategy. It requires a return to the self who was there before she learned to perform. If you are navigating a career transition, a layoff, a life that no longer fits, or the quiet knowing that successful and alive are not the same thing , this show was made for you. Because the woman you are becoming is not someone new. She is who you were before you learned to perform. This podcast is how you come home to her. New episodes every Wednesday. Hosted by Dr. Amen Kaur: PhD, former Partner at a FTSE 250 company in business growth, and founder of the Human Intelligence Framework . She works with women who have outgrown the version of themselves that got them here. Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence Framework. A walkthrough of the framework so you can lead, decide, and build from a self that is actually yours. Watch free: amenkaur.com/masterclass Follow Dr. Amen Kaur: Instagram @dramenkaur · YouTube @dramenkaur · TikTok @dramenkaur Topics covered: I've lost myself, who am I now, lost my identity, feeling lost in midlife, starting over after 40, high-achieving women, career transition, high functioning burnout, identity after job loss, capable but stuck, return not reinvention, coming home to yourself, Human Intelligence Framework, Dr. Amen Kaur. Educational content only. Not a substitute for professional therapeutic, medical, or financial advice.

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  I'll eliminate your self-sabotage forever (the five-beat loop and how to break it)

  Sep 9, 202629 min

  Take the Quiz : https://www.amenkaur.com/quiz You get close to the thing you want. The promotion, the business, the conversation you've been meaning to have. And something in you pulls back. That's not weakness, and it's not a mindset problem. It's an old map doing its job. In this episode I walk you through the exact five-beat loop your self-sabotage runs on, so you can catch it happening in real time. Then I show you how to break it, working backwards, starting in the one place most people refuse to start. I also run my own through it. The boardroom, the seizing up, the boss who'd put his neck out for me, and the rule underneath it that I didn't know I was following. What you'll take away: The map you were handed early in life, and why self-sabotage is what happens at its edges The five beats: want more, trigger, the body reacts, escape, relief, shame, and why the relief is what makes it sticky Step one: start at the shame, and why love is the only thing that stops it fueling the next round Step two: go back to the trigger and listen, with a short practice you can do while you listen Step three: give your body one new experience, and the trick I stumbled into when I couldn't do it for myself The deeper layer: what the Bhagavad Gita, the first letter of John, and the Guru Granth Sahib were pointing to long before the neuroscience caught up Your next step: You now have the method. What you don't know yet is which of your five systems is holding the edge. Take the three-minute quiz at amenkaur.com/quiz and find out what to focus on first. If this episode did something for you: Rate the show wherever you're listening. Share it with the one person who came to mind. And if you have a minute, a few words in the reviews about what shifted. I read every one. Research mentioned: Neff, K. (2003). Self-compassion: an alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity. Gilbert, P. (2009). The Compassionate Mind. Constable. Kirschner, H. et al. (2019). Soothing your heart and feeling connected: a new experimental paradigm to study the benefits of self-compassion. Clinical Psychological Science. Texts mentioned: Bhagavad Gita 6:5 to 6:6 1 John 4:18 Guru Granth Sahib, Ang 441 This episode is for reflection and education. It isn't therapy or medical advice.

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  Starting over after a loss or ending? It's not clarity you're missing

  Sep 3, 202637 min

  You know roughly what you want. You still can't make yourself do it. This episode explains why, in plain pictures, and gives you one small thing to do this week that your body will actually let you do. If you've been laid off, divorced, lost someone, lost a home, or had an ending you didn't choose, and it's months or years on and you're still in the parking lot, this one is for you. Five lessons. It was never a clarity problem. Your brain is driving on an old map. You're not lazy, you're on 8% battery. You cannot be told your value, you have to experience it. And you redraw the map one short drive at a time. With the stories of five women who did exactly that: a book, a podcast, a sideline business, a job that trains for the next thing, and a job that finally fits her family. Find out which of five patterns is stopping you. Three minutes, ten questions: https://amenkaur.com/quiz In this episode Why "I need more clarity" is the wrong problem to solve The satnav that has the destination and won't start What a loss actually takes from you (not the building, the road) Why your brain pulls over after a loss, and why that isn't weakness The 8% battery: why courses and advice don't land when you're running on empty Chargers and drainers: the people who fill your battery and the ones running in the background You cannot be told your value, you have to experience it The singer, the applause, and where worth actually lives Small drives in daylight: how the brain redraws its map Fuel on the garage floor vs fuel in the tank The one thing to do this week Write down the rough direction you already know. One sentence. Notice how fast it came. Take the quiz https://amenkaur.com/quiz Science mentioned Lisa Feldman Barrett, How Emotions Are Made / Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain. The predictive brain, the body budget, prediction error. Peter Sheeran, Intention-behavior relations (2002); Sheeran and Webb, The intention-behavior gap (2016). Inclined abstainers. Albert Bandura, Self-Efficacy (1997). Mastery experience. Jamieson, Mendes, Blackstock and Schmader (2010). Arousal reappraisal. Keywords starting over, loss, layoff, divorce, stuck, motivation, self-worth, nervous system, identity, career change after 40, women, coaching, self love, value,

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  How to Master Your Emotions & Never Get Annoyed or Bothered by Anyone

  Aug 26, 202628 min

  Click here for the Free Quiz You've done the courses. You've read the books. You've done the therapy work. And you're still sitting there thinking, why can't I move? That isn't a knowledge problem. You already know the direction you need to move in. Something is stopping you from acting on it. In this episode I make the case that when something big goes, a marriage, a role, a title, a business, a person, what you actually lost was your container. That identity was doing a job for you. It was holding your emotions in place. And when it went, the emotions didn't go anywhere, they just lost their anchor. Which is exactly why it feels like a confidence problem, and exactly why treating it as one doesn't work. I share what I learned reading KPI spreadsheets as a partner in a FTSE 250 business, where I could tell you which person on a team was struggling before anyone said a word to me. And I give you five lessons you can use today. The five lessons You didn't lose your confidence, you lost your container Emotions compound, and the danger is the delay, not the emotion Your emotions are data, and naming them changes your nervous system Every emotion needs a different solution, which is why the wrong course leaves you exactly where you started SAS: space and self-regulate, before you decide anything Lesson four is the one almost nobody talks about, and it's the reason people spend thousands and come back feeling identical. Not sure which one is yours? I've built a short quiz that tells you which pattern is running things for you right now, with an audio to listen to based on your result. It takes a couple of minutes. Quiz - Click here Research mentioned in this episode Lieberman, M. D., Eisenberger, N. I., Crockett, M. J., Tom, S. M., Pfeifer, J. H., and Way, B. M. (2007). Putting Feelings Into Words: Affect Labeling Disrupts Amygdala Activity in Response to Affective Stimuli. Psychological Science , 18(5), 421 to 428. Kashdan, T. B., Barrett, L. F., and McKnight, P. E. (2015). Unpacking Emotion Differentiation. Current Directions in Psychological Science , 24(1), 10 to 16. Note that this literature is largely correlational rather than causal. About Dr. Amen Kaur Dr. Amen Kaur is a trauma-informed who spent over 20 years in leadership, becoming a partner in a FTSE 250 business, before moving into helping women after major life transitions achieve their career and business goals through identity change & creating systems that help implement change.

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  How to Change Your Life in One Day (5 Steps)

  Aug 18, 202633 min

  Take the free 3-minute quiz → https://amenkaur.com/quiz Find out which of the five patterns is keeping you stuck. Ten questions, about three minutes, free, with your own reading and a short audio from me. How to change your life when you already know what to do and still can't do it. You've read the books. You've done the courses. You've made the plan more than once. And still, the thing you keep meaning to change hasn't changed. That isn't a discipline problem. A clinical psychologist called William Miller spent his whole career studying addiction and behavior change, and kept meeting people who had been stuck for years and then changed in a single moment. Not slowly. Not through treatment. All at once. When he asked them what had actually changed, none of them said willpower. They said what mattered to them had rearranged itself. In this episode I take you through five steps you can do in one sitting, with a pen and paper or your voice notes, to find the system running underneath your behavior and start changing it. I share the belief I carried for thirty years, where I got it from, and the ordinary evening that made it impossible to keep carrying. The fifth step is the one almost nobody teaches, and it's the reason so much change is temporary. What we cover Why trying harder works against you, and what actually moves first The two kinds of sudden change Miller found, and what they had in common How your value structure got built before you had any say in it Why overgiving and proving your worth are one belief, not several habits Why your body objects when you say something true about yourself What completion is, and why change doesn't hold without it Who this is for If you are capable, functioning, and stuck. If you're starting over after a divorce, a redundancy, an empty nest, or leaving a career that defined you, this is the episode about why knowing hasn't been enough. Do this with me Have a pen and paper, or your phone's voice notes. Pause where you need to. This is a doing episode. Research referenced William R. Miller and Janet C'de Baca, Quantum Change: When Epiphanies and Sudden Insights Transform Ordinary Lives. Find out which pattern is yours: https://amenkaur.com/quiz behavior change, identity, self worth, burnout, nervous system, quantum change, William Miller, values, overgiving, people pleasing, women in transition, coachingchange your life in one day, personal development, five steps to change, motivational interviewing, overcoming fear, self-help strategies, value reorganization, shifting priorities, building confidence, behavior change, identity transformation, self-worth improvement, breaking bad habits, self-discovery journey, emotional freedom, creating meaningful change, personal growth techniques, effective life changes, mindset shift, understanding addiction recovery Disclaimer This podcast is for education and reflection. I'm a coach, not a doctor or a therapist, and nothing here is a substitute for medical or mental health treatment. Step three in this episode asks you to look at difficult things on purpose. If that brings up more than you can manage alone, please speak to your GP or a qualified therapist. If you're in crisis, contact emergency services or a crisis line in your country.

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  You don't have a manifestation problem. You have a belonging problem.

  Aug 5, 202630 min

  You don't have a manifestation problem. You have a belonging problem. Seven lessons on why your nervous system rejects the success you keep asking for, and how to finally move forward. If you've been secretly trying to manifest more in your life, a new you, a new life, that job, that business, that bigger reach, and you're still stuck in exactly the same place, this episode offers a different explanation, one that starts in your nervous system, not your mindset. I spent my early career as a scientist and over twenty years helping people build careers and businesses before becoming a trauma informed somatic coach, so everything in this episode sits on the bridge between science and spirituality. We go deep into the mechanics of why putting something out there isn't bringing back what you truly want, and what your nervous system has to do with it. I share seven lessons, in three parts: Feeling lost doesn't mean you're off your path You can't think your way out, because the block was never in your thinking Everything is energy, and you belong to it by default Your brain is a filter, built from every moment you learned you didn't belong Your body isn't failing to attract success, it's rejecting it Your place in the puzzle exists by design, you don't have to earn it Belonging comes first, not after success Each lesson comes with one small action you can take this week, including the ninety second practice for finally letting an emotion move through your body. Mentioned in this episode The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Dr. David Hawkins and his map of consciousness Neuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor's observation that an emotion moves through the body in about ninety seconds Physicists John Wheeler and Richard Feynman on the energy contained in empty space Free masterclass If this episode stirred something in you and you'd like support finding your value, releasing your limitations, and creating what you came here to do, my free masterclass is at https://amenkaur.com/masterclass Let's connect Tell me which of the seven lessons landed hardest for you, I genuinely want to know, and it helps me decide what to go deeper on next time. And if this show is useful to you, a rating or review makes a real difference in helping it reach the women who need it. manifestation, why manifestation isn't working, nervous system, nervous system regulation, survival mode, somatic coaching, somatic healing, trauma informed, feeling stuck, feeling lost, self-worth, self-trust, self-love, belonging, purpose, life transition, starting over, career change, visibility, women in midlife, neuroscience, emotional intelligence, intuition, The Body Keeps the Score, spiritual growth

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