
Episode #70
Ep. 70 | Signs: When Love Finds a Way to Reach Us
Have you ever experienced something that stopped you in your tracks and made you wonder, was that a sign? A butterfly appearing at exactly the right moment. A song you haven’t heard in years suddenly playing when you’re thinking about someone you lost. A cardinal, a dragonfly, a heart in the clouds, a coin in an impossible place—or an old message appearing on your phone with the words you desperately needed to hear. In this deeply personal solo episode of S.O.S. Stories of Survivors, Serina Dansker explores the subject of signs and the moments that have made her wonder whether the people we love are ever truly as far away as they seem. Inspired by the chapter “Signs” from her book S.O.S.: A Lesson on Love, Loss, & Survival, Serina shares experiences that began long before the death of her 16-year-old son, Scott. She remembers the monarch butterfly that landed directly on her toe after her father’s death, despite their complicated relationship. She recounts a vivid and unsettling dream involving a former colleague that took on an entirely different meaning when Serina discovered years later what had happened to her. Then came Scott. After losing her son to suicide, Serina desperately searched for reassurance that he was at peace and still somehow connected to her. What followed were moments she couldn’t always explain but couldn’t ignore either: hearts, dragonflies, songs, messages, words written in the sand—and one unforgettable message involving SpongeBob underwear that carried Scott’s unmistakable sense of humor. Now, after the loss of her mother, the signs feel different again: dimes appearing in unexpected places, bright red cardinals, butterflies and even the 1970s disco song “You Can Ring My Bell” turning up in the most unlikely places. Each person, Serina believes, seems to have their own signature. But on the morning she planned to record this episode, another remarkable story arrived. An old middle-school friend she hadn’t spoken with in years unexpectedly reached out to tell her about the monarch butterflies that appeared almost daily during one of the most difficult transitions of his life. For months, as his family’s longtime business closed and he struggled with guilt over letting go of his grandfather’s legacy, the butterflies followed him. Then, once he found his way forward, they stopped. For Serina, the timing of his message felt like one more reminder to tell these stories. This episode isn’t about proving the afterlife or convincing anyone what to believe. It’s about allowing ourselves to find comfort and meaning in the moments that touch our hearts. Because perhaps signs don’t change what happened. Maybe they change the way we carry what happened. And as Serina reflects on Scott’s poem “People,” she recognizes another kind of sign that may be even more important: the signs being shown by the people who are still here. The friend who suddenly withdraws. The child whose personality changes. The person who keeps insisting they’re fine when something tells you they’re not. Sometimes, instead of waiting for a sign, we can become the sign someone else needs—the sign that they are seen, that someone cares, and that their life matters. If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally or thinking about suicide in the United States, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Help is available 24/7. To learn more about Serina Dansker, purchase her book S.O.S.: A Lesson on Love, Loss, & Survival, book her for a public speaking engagement, and discover more stories of hope, healing, and resilience, visit www.serinadansker.com. S.O.S. Stories of Survivors — Where Survival Sparks the Soul.

