Episode #49
049. Sex, Psychedelics & Surrender- A Crossover of Inner Journey with Greg Friedman
What happens when a plant medicine guide and a sex coach swap microphones for two hours? This is that episode. Rose Heartsong was a guest for the full hour on Inner Journey with Greg Friedman, and immediately after, Greg came on as her guest for the full hour on Sex Ritual Radio. This is that back to back conversation, recorded live on KXFM 104.7, Laguna Beach's community radio station. Rose Heartsong is an intimacy and erotic intelligence coach (often called a sex coach), somatic kink practitioner, and host of Sex Ritual Radio, airing live every Sunday night. Greg Friedman is a ceremonial guide who has spent decades studying with indigenous elders around the world and hosts Inner Journey, airing right before Rose's show on the same station. In the first hour, Rose and Greg get into the nervous system's role in desire and arousal, why porn is functioning as sex education for kids as young as 11, and the direct link researchers are finding between screen habits and rising erectile dysfunction in young men. Rose breaks down a simple framework she teaches clients for building better sex: separating intention from desire, why so many people freeze when asked what they actually want, and how to use a safe word (red, not a made up phrase) to stop anything, anytime, no questions asked. They also cover the 7/33/60 rule of communication, why breathwork, specifically rotational breath with a partner, changes the entire experience of sex, and why chasing the orgasm is usually what gets in its way. In the second hour, the roles flip. Greg tells Rose about decades spent doing ceremony with Shipibo elders in the Amazon, Aborigine elders in the Outback, and the Native American Church, and why he treats plant medicine as a GPS rather than a shortcut. They talk through the difference between resistance and surrender during a psychedelic journey, why integration after a ceremony matters as much as the ceremony itself, and Rose shares her own history with mushrooms, acid, and peyote and how it shaped her relationship with her body and her work. The conversation moves into some of Rose's core teaching territory: existential kink, using consensual kink and sensation play to alchemize shadow material instead of repeating unconscious pain, and a real story of guiding a client through Shibari rope work to help her practice surrender in her body. They close on The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz, the difference between codependency and love, and Laguna Beach's own strange history as one of Timothy Leary's old stomping grounds. This episode covers legal and illegal psychedelics purely as personal experience and education, not instruction. Neither Rose nor Greg are telling you to do any of this. They're sharing what has worked for them and their clients so you can decide what's right for you. To book a consultation with Rose or join her Dear Desire email list, go to https://roseheartsong.com/ To learn more about Greg's ceremonial journeys and his own show, go to https://gregfriedman.com/ What you'll learn in this episode Why nervous system regulation, not willpower, determines arousal and erectile function The real link between porn, screen time, and rising erectile dysfunction in young men The difference between intention and desire, and a simple way to find yours when you draw a blank How to actually use a safe word, and why "red" beats a clever made up phrase The 7/33/60 rule of communication and why body language runs the show Why chasing orgasm gets in the way of having one The difference between toxic and embodied masculine and feminine energy What plant medicine ceremony with indigenous elders actually involves, and why Greg treats it as a GPS, not a fix Why resistance, not the medicine itself, is what makes a journey feel unbearable What existential kink is and how consensual kink can be used to process shadow material A real coaching story of using Shibari rope work to help a client practice surrender Why Laguna Beach has a surprising connection to Timothy Leary and the history of acid 0:00 Intro on Inner Journey and Rose's tagline: you don't need to be fixed, you need to be ignited 3:00 The nervous system's role in desire and arousal 6:00 Porn, screen time, and rising erectile dysfunction in young men 10:00 What sexuality actually is: physical and spiritual 14:00 Intention versus desire, and how to find yours 18:00 Desire, shame, and religious conditioning 21:00 Safe words and the red, yellow, green system 24:30 The 7/33/60 rule and body language attunement 27:30 Conscious versus unconscious primal energy, and orgasm as a selfish act 34:00 Rose's new platform and the Charged program 36:00 Toxic versus embodied masculine and feminine 40:00 Surrender versus submission 43:00 Rotational breathwork with a partner 46:30 Self-pleasure practice and the forget it method 49:00 A workshop story on authenticity and communication 51:30 Normalizing fantasy and desire, with real statistics 53:30 Where to find Rose's programs and the Dear Desire list 55:30 Hour two begins: Greg joins Sex Ritual Radio 58:00 Greg's background with indigenous elders and ceremony 62:00 Plant medicine as a GPS, not a fix 65:00 The Ram Dass and his guru story 67:00 Why journeying at the medicine's origin changes the experience 69:00 Resistance versus surrender in a psychedelic journey 72:00 Ayahuasca, peyote, acid, and mushrooms compared 74:30 Embodiment versus leaving the body during a journey 77:00 Peyote, purging, and sacredness 80:00 Rose's own psychedelic history and how it shaped her work 83:00 Why guides and integration matter so much 85:30 Bringing prayer and reverence into sexuality 88:00 Pleasure, pain, and somatic kink 91:00 Existential Kink and working with the shadow self 95:00 A Shibari story: helping a client practice surrender 98:00 Alchemizing shadow through kink and plant medicine 101:00 Hallucinogens hiding in your spice cabinet 104:00 Timothy Leary, Laguna Beach, and Tune In and Turn On 106:30 Rose's personal experience with sex and psychedelics 109:00 Heart space, non-attachment, and codependency versus love 111:00 The Mastery of Love: salt and salve, revisited 113:00 Closing and where to find Greg and Rose ✨ Resources & Special Offers ✨ Explore more at www.roseheartsong.com Splash Blanket - 10% off with code ROSEHEARTSONG → https://splashblanket.us/