Sex Drunks

Ash and Catherine join the guys at the retreat to talk sponsorship, relapse, and the relief of not having all the answers. They get honest about dating, shame, surrendering outcomes, and learning to connect with people...

At the retreat, the guys dig into surrendering what matters most—money, sex, dating, anger, and the illusion of control. Mike shares how a roof repair tested his sense of security, why buying coffee nearly wrecked his...

Nicole and Brennan join J. and Pasha to talk about separation, relapse after 90 days of treatment, and why they had to recover apart before they could recover together. They get honest about broken trust, Sunday...

At an SA retreat, Scott and Austin join the guys to talk sponsorship, first-step feedback, and the difference between doing all the things and actually surrendering. They get honest about ignored phone calls, bruised...

On the road to an Oregon retreat, J. and Pasha ask whether sex addiction is really so different from other addictions—and what gets missed when we insist it is. They get honest about lust, relapse, ego, withdrawal, and...

Margie joins the conversation to talk about women in sex addiction recovery, breaking stigma, and the freedom she found after years of white-knuckling it. She shares how faith, vulnerability, and her husband’s steadfast...

A fellow’s family crisis pushes the guys into a candid conversation about humility, marriage, boundaries, and the limits of recovery advice. J. shares what years of rebuilding trust looked like, while an awkward...

A dream studio and a ChatGPT detour into hyperfixation lead to a bigger question: how do you share recovery stories without exposing someone else? J. and his co-host unpack silent meeting regulars, awkward public...

R.C. joins Pasha and J. to unpack 14 years of searching for recovery, the “first drink” of lust, and why changing the recipe can change the result. They get into sobriety definitions, the Big Book versus the White Book...

Ash joins J. and Pasha to talk about quitting playing God, loosening the grip on “the right way,” and finding a more honest kind of recovery. Along the way, they unpack people-pleasing, sponsorship, character defects...

J. and Pasha wrestle with what message to carry: the book’s instructions, personal experience, or sometimes nothing at all. Along the way, a vanished beard, a possibly familiar barber, and a ten-minute limit on...

Matt and Carriss D join J. and Pasha to unpack betrayal, relentless snooping, reclaiming a voice, and the hard work of staying on your own side of the street. Along the way, a timeshare pitch becomes a marriage, an app...

Ethan joins J. and Pasha to talk daily sobriety renewals, romantic fantasy, and why he waited a year before dating. They get real about disclosing sex addiction on a third date, making a partner your higher power, and...

Susie joins J. and Pasha at the Denver convention to talk fellowship, service, and the very strange math of reclaiming a sobriety date after years of calling it something else. They get into slips, powerlessness...

Ezra joins J. and Pasha after getting pulled into the podcast basically by accident, then somehow ends up telling a full recovery story from newspaper clippings and secret emails to scary basements, Israel meetings...