Episode #23
The 10-Minute Conversation That Saves Marriages
A top divorce attorney says the #1 killer of marriages isn't an affair or money — it's silence. And he gave away the fix for free. Ten minutes a week. Two questions. Zero dollars. Erik and Diana break down what that conversation actually sounds like, why the order of the two questions decides whether it heals or wounds, and what happens when you stop guessing what makes your spouse feel loved and simply ask. Then they run it on each other live, unrehearsed — and both get surprised. We cover: The slow drift that turns partners into roommates, and how to spot it early The exact wording of both questions, so you're not improvising Why leading with criticism fails no matter how kind you are How to turn "we never do this anymore" into an invitation instead of an accusation What to do when your spouse's honest answer stings The kind of intimacy that physical connection can't substitute for It's not a destination, it's a journey. Let's keep building a red hot marriage. This week's question: ask your spouse the first question tonight — what are three things I did this week that made you feel loved? Then DM us what they said. We read every one. If this episode helped, leave us a review. It's the single biggest way you help another couple find us.
