
Episode #662
7 Things We Got Wrong About Early Retirement | Queer Money Ep. 662
Our Early Retirement Confessional We retired early because we thought we were buying ourselves more freedom. We were right. We also got some pretty big things wrong. In our second full year of retirement, David's healthcare alone will cost us more than $20,000. Income we expected to keep earning in semi-retirement practically disappeared. And all that glorious free time? Turns out Netflix is perfectly willing to help you waste your retirement. How thoughtful of them. Even after running our retirement numbers repeatedly and proving to ourselves that we have enough, there's still occasionally that annoying little voice asking: “But what if we got it wrong?” In this episode of Queer Money®, we're getting personal about 7 things that surprised us after retiring early , what actually happened and what we're doing differently now. 7 things we got wrong: Healthcare isn't just a money problem. You can afford the trip and still not feel well enough to take it. Semi-retirement income isn't guaranteed. Income we expected from Queer Money and corporate partnerships became considerably less reliable, reminding us why retirement needs multiple financial bridges. The math doesn't eliminate the fear. After decades of saving, your brain doesn't automatically become comfortable spending because a spreadsheet says you're ready. Not everyone will understand. Friends and family may interpret your retirement, move abroad or unconventional choices through their fears rather than your reality. ️ Free time doesn't create purpose. “I can't wait to stop working” isn't a retirement plan. What are you retiring TO? Healthy habits don't magically happen. “Anytime” has an irritating habit of becoming “never.” Freedom works better with some structure. Spending your money can feel WRONG. After 30 or 40 years of accumulating wealth, deliberately spending it can feel irresponsible even when that's literally what the money is for. And that last lesson may be the hardest one for us. We're learning to ask not only “Can we afford this?” but also: “Will this give us enough happiness, connection or experience to make spending the money worth it?” That's our return on happiness . If we could talk to ourselves before retiring, we'd offer three pieces of advice: Build financial bridges before you need them. Build a life before you leave your job. Build flexibility into every assumption. Because retirement isn't the finish line. It's another version of your life that you have to build. Want to stress-test your own retirement? Use the Queer Money Retirement Calculator Financial education only, not individualized financial, tax or investment advice. Retire by design, not by default. ️ How We Help the Queer Money Community Free Guides 10 Vital Retirement Numbers Retire Abroad Checklist Calculators, Planners & Tools ️ Queer Money Retirement Calculator ✈️ Queer Money Retire Abroad Planner & Calculator Queer Money Retirement Vault Retirement Readiness Review






