Pillow Talks

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Pillow Talks is a health podcast hosted by Vanessa & Xander Marin, with 274 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80. PitchCentric scores this show on Booking Probability, Listen Score, and live audience signals refreshed every 24 hours.

Vanessa & Xander Marin hosts Pillow Talks, a health show with 274 episodes published.

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  E275: Reasonable or Ridiculous? Sex Quotas, Oral Every Time, and Dirty Talk Dealbreakers

  Aug 27, 202650 min

  It's time for another round of Reasonable or Ridiculous, where we take real life couple disagreements our community members just can't settle and play referee. In this episode, you'll hear: Can you ask your partner to start initiating again after you spent years shutting them down? A monthly quota for sex: reasonable or red flag? Oral every single time: too much to ask or not a big deal? The blowjob stereotype most women believe, and what men actually told us in our foreplay survey Asking your partner to stop saying a word that gives you the ick, without shutting down the dirty talk entirely How to admit you've hated something in bed for years without making your partner feel terrible Is waking your partner up because you can't sleep crossing a line? Want to stop guessing and start feeling confident in your technique? It’s time to give and receive “I didn’t know it could be that good” pleasure with the Ultimate Foreplay Guides. Our #1 best-seller for a reason. Detailed, step-by-step instructions that guide you through expertly fingering and going down on a vulva, and giving jaw-dropping hand jobs and blow jobs. Animated GIFs with tasteful illustrations that will help you become an expert at our hottest foreplay techniques. Over 100 unique techniques designed to give your partner maximum pleasure and secret hacks to get them begging for more. Exactly what to do before, during, and after orgasm to ensure a “my soul just left my body” experience. Check out The Ultimate Foreplay Guides here: https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay Stay Connected Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame: https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts! ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== Thanks Wild Alaskan. Get $35 off your first order of premium, wild-caught seafood. Get seafood you can trust. ➡︎http://wildalaskan.com/PILLOW Thanks Cozy Earth. Oversized, ultra-plush, and completely built for your best summer days. Use code PILLOW for an exclusive 20% off. If you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!➡︎https://cozyearth.com Thanks Quince. Upgrade your everyday. Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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  E274: Is it Normal to Not Orgasm During Sex? We Got Attacked for Talking About This

  Aug 20, 20261h 6m

  We recently shared a reel answering a question from a woman who didn’t orgasm during sex. The comments section turned into something we've never experienced in over ten years of doing this, including one accusation we still can't believe we had to respond to. In this episode, you'll hear: The one line in that reel that set the whole thing off The accusation that hurt more than anything we've ever been called online The ball of clay explanation that changes how you understand your own anatomy The percentage of women who actually orgasm from penetration alone (it's not what you've been told) The rule we have in our own sex life As promised in the episode, our Survivor's Guide is a free resource for survivors of sexual assault who want to reclaim their sex life. Grab it here: https://vmtherapy.com/survivors-guide-opt-in Finishing School is our orgasm course for women, and it starts exactly where this episode does, with understanding that you're not broken. Learn how your anatomy actually works Do the mindset work first, because that's what makes every technique after it land Get step by step practices for orgasming on your own and with a partner Learn how to create more sensation during intercourse instead of less Check out Finishing School here: https://vmtherapy.com/orgasm Stay Connected Follow us on Instagram: https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame: https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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  E273: How to Try New Sex Positions Without Killing the Mood

  Aug 13, 20261 hour

  This week we're answering all your questions about trying new positions, from how to introduce something new when you've been together forever, to why switching things up can kill the mood, to the pillow trick that changes everything, plus how many positions you actually need for great sex. In this episode, you'll hear: ️ How to introduce new positions when you've been together forever ⭐ The most underrated position, and no, it's not missionary Why switching out of missionary sometimes kills the mood What to do when he goes soft during a transition ️ The best pillow and furniture for better positions ⏱️ How long to give a position before deciding "nah, this isn't it" How many positions you actually need in one session Use this episode to talk with your partner about what you'd actually love to try next. Think you've tried every position? Think again. Ultimate Sex Positions is our fully illustrated guide to 47 positions, with step-by-step guidance, tips for how to move, and smart adjustments for real bodies. 47 fully illustrated positions (5 new!) with step-by-step guidance 17 brand-new pillow positions, because changing your angle by a few inches changes everything Recommendations for what each position is best for, plus troubleshooting and aftercare Right now, get the whole guide and every bonus for just $49, half off the regular $97 The sale ends Monday, August 17, so don't wait. Check out Ultimate Sex Positions here: https://vmtherapy.com/ultimatesex Stay Connected Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame → https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you get your podcasts! ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== Thanks Quince. Make your summer wardrobe easier. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow Thanks Cozy Earth. Oversized, ultra-plush, and completely built for your best summer days. Use code PILLOW for an exclusive 20% off. If you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!➡︎https://cozyearth.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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  E272: What Do Men Really Think About….? (Part 5) Rough Sex, Vibrators, and What Turns Them Off

  Aug 6, 202659 min

  It’s time for another episode of What Do Men Really Think About… and Xander’s back in the hot seat to answer your burning questions about preferences, fantasies, the death grip, and how to give better feedback in bed. Plus, we’re giving you questions to share with your partner to help you get on the same page and build your goals for your sex life! In this episode, you'll hear:  Do men actually prefer rough sex? The most misunderstood thing about men and sex ️ How to use the 5 to 10 minutes right after sex for more connection ️ Do men really want feedback in bed? Reverse cowgirl, the view, and the butthole anxiety How men really feel about discharge and everything else your body does during sex Do men get upset when you need a vibrator to orgasm? ❓ A round of quick fire preference questions to take home and ask your partner tonight ️ Want more connection, intimacy, and spark in your relationship every single month?  The Spark is our monthly membership for couples who want to keep intimacy alive without having to figure it all out on their own.  Fresh, doable ways to connect delivered every month, so you never run out of ideas Real guidance from a sex therapist and her very own regular dude Low pressure prompts and conversations that actually fit your real life Built for couples in any season, whether things feel stuck or you just want more of a good thing Stay Connected Check out The Spark here: https://vmtherapy.com/spark  Follow us on Instagram → https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander Get our weekly email, real talk, expert tips, and zero shame → https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== Thanks Blissy. Because you’re a listener, Blissy is offering 60-nights risk-free PLUS use code PILLOWPOD to get an additional 30% off. Your skin and hair will thank you!➡︎https://blissy.com/PILLOWPOD Thanks Cure. Cure Hydration just launched in Target, which I'm genuinely pumped about. I stocked up last week and the box is already half gone. So next time you're at Target, grab some! Use the code PILLOWTALKS for 20% off. ➡︎https://curehydration.com/PILLOWTALKS Thanks Quince. Make your summer wardrobe easier. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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  E271: The Real Reason You Can't "Let Go" in Bed

  Jul 30, 202651 min

  You're finally in bed together, but you can’t stop thinking about tomorrow's to-do list. We've all heard the advice to “just let go”. Stop thinking, stop controlling, lose yourself. But 80% of you tell us that you struggle to actually do that. So we're saying something a little controversial this week: "just let go" might be the worst sex advice out there. Listen in to learn what actually helps you feel present and connected to your partner during sex. In this episode, you'll hear: Why "just let go" tends to backfire and pull you further into your head The real reasons your brain won't quiet down Why you'll never be perfectly present the whole time, and why that's actually OK The questions to ask yourself mid-distraction to spot what's really in the way A better goal to chase than "letting go” How your nervous system decides whether pleasure feels safe, and how to help it settle If you've ever laid there convinced something's wrong with you for not being able to switch off, nothing is. Your brain is doing exactly what brains do, and there's a kinder, more useful way in. The Spark is our $9/month membership for keeping playfulness, curiosity, and closeness alive when real life keeps getting in the way. If this episode hit home, it's the easiest place to start putting it into practice: Fresh prompts, date ideas, and conversation starters delivered every month Built for real couples with real lives, not just the honeymoon phase Small, doable ways to stay connected and get out of your head together Check out The Spark here: https://vmtherapy.com/spark Stay connected Follow us on Instagram at https://instagram.com/vanessaandxander. Get our weekly email at https://vmtherapy.com/subscribe. Loving the show? Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen, and leave a review to help more people find us. ========================== THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS ========================== Thanks Quince. Make your summer wardrobe easier. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada too. ➡︎https://quince.com/pillow Thanks Cozy Earth. Made from viscose from bamboo — breathable, soft, and built for summer. Use code PILLOW for an exclusive 20% off. If you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!➡︎https://cozyearth.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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