
Episode #84
Stop Fixing, Start Listening: Helping Young Adults Make Their Own Decisions
Send us an email @ info@parentcoachesunleashed.com As your children grow into young adults, the way you support them has to grow, too. In this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed , Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld share honest stories about the challenging work of listening more, resisting the urge to fix, and letting their sons make important decisions for themselves. Jessica describes how her son Jackson took four days to choose between two college fraternities. Though she and her husband had their own hopes, they made space for Jaxon to weigh his options, ask questions, and decide what felt right for him. Carrie shares how her son Devin asked for help thinking through a possible job change. Together, they listened, made a pros-and-cons list, and considered what was still unknown—without making the decision for him. The conversation explores how parents can be a sounding board rather than the decision-maker: ask whether your child wants advice or simply to be heard, give them room to explain their thinking, and offer structure without taking over. Jessica and Carrie also reflect on why it can feel so hard to hold back, how parents’ emotions can become tied to their children’s choices, and the pride that comes from watching a young adult work through a decision independently. This isn’t presented as a quick or effortless transformation. Jessica and Carrie acknowledge that their families’ paths included challenges, and that learning to parent emerging adults takes practice. Their stories offer reassurance for parents navigating the transition from managing a child’s choices to supporting a more independent young person—with hope that even a bumpy path can lead toward greater confidence and autonomy. Connect with Jessica Anger and Carrie Wiesenfeld: Instagram | info@parentcoachesunleashed.com Soaring Hawk Life Coaching | Ocean Waves Parenting

