
Odyssey & Alchemy: Men's Inner Transformation and Depth Psychology with Martin Prihoda
Ep 46: Your Inner Child Has a Security Guard: Dr. Julie Gowthorpe on Trauma & Self-Nurturing Therapy
What if the thing sabotaging your next big move isn't fear — it's a security guard who's been on duty since childhood? Dr. Julie Gowthorpe is a registered social worker and founder of Gowthorpe Therapists in Ontario, where she and her team provide trauma-informed care for individuals, couples, and families — including specialized work with police, military members, and First Nations communities navigating intergenerational trauma. Her new book, Heal Childhood Trauma , lays out what she calls self-nurturing therapy: learning to become the parent your inner child never had. In this conversation we explore inner transformation through the lens of attachment and the body — the four attachment styles formed in childhood and how they quietly run your adult relationships, why nervous system regulation (not willpower) is what actually lets someone stop bypassing pain through alcohol, humor, or compulsive behavior, the ACE study and how early trauma shows up decades later at the cellular level, why men specifically tend to be "fine, fine, fine — until they're not," and how intergenerational trauma gets passed down through parents who were never taught how to nurture in the first place. Martin and Julie also get into the Buddhist metaphor of the two bags we carry — one full of everyone else's shortcomings, one full of our own we can't see — and why your "villains" are often the clearest mirror into your own unhealed parts. This is a conversation about what's actually on the other side of doing this work: not happiness, but freedom — the kind where your shoulders drop and you trust yourself to respond with wisdom instead of react from fear. https://drjuliegowthorpersw.com/ If this conversation moved something in you, a rating or review helps more people find this work. Martin's book, The Weary Traveller's Guide to a Life Worth Living , is available now.

