
Episode #565
NTM 565: How to stop pushing through and start living
So many women have built a life that looks successful on the outside, yet quietly feel exhausted, disconnected and like they're carrying everyone else while leaving themselves behind. In this deeply honest conversation, Julie sits down with Fleur Marks, author of The Overachiever's Reset, to explore the hidden cost of overfunctioning after Fleur's journey through sarcoidosis and two experiences of breast cancer completely transformed how she defines success. Together they unpack perfectionism, people pleasing, proving, performing and pushing through, why these patterns are often inherited, and how radical acceptance can become the doorway to a life that feels deeply fulfilling rather than endlessly productive. This episode is an invitation to stop abandoning yourself in the name of achievement and begin creating a life that honours your body, your relationships and what truly matters. In this episode, we discussed: - Why overfunctioning can look successful while quietly costing you your health, relationships and sense of self. - Fleur's journey through sarcoidosis and two experiences of breast cancer, and how illness completely reshaped her definition of success. - The identity crisis that often comes when your body can no longer sustain the pace you've always expected of it. - Why keeping it all together isn't always strength, and the hidden price of always being the one who carries everything. - The difference between achievement that comes from fear and achievement that comes from alignment. - Radical acceptance and asking, "How do I want to show up for this one precious life?" - Why true fulfilment is different from constantly chasing the next achievement. - Learning to work with your body and your energy instead of constantly overriding both. - The surprising truth that being self-full allows you to be more generous, present and loving with those around you. - Why self-care isn't just bubble baths or massages, but also making choices that support your long-term wellbeing. - Fleur's definition of self-care as creating space to simply be, without guilt or needing to earn it. - How developing a relationship with your inner self changes the way you live, parent and partner. - The five pillars of overachieving: Perfectionism People pleasing Proving your worth Performing Pushing through - Why these patterns are often inherited rather than consciously chosen. - Learning to ask, "What's driving me to achieve at the cost of myself?" - Why self-care is often uncomfortable because it asks us to disappoint old patterns before it brings peace. - How striving for balance can become another impossible standard, and why working with the season you're in is far more sustainable. - Practical shifts that help reconnect you to yourself, including slowing your mornings, honouring your energy and taking moments to simply pause. - Why kindness toward yourself is not giving up. It's often the beginning of finally living. FREE emergency reset and 30 day reset journal available at - https://fleurmarks.com.au/pages/resources - Buy her book - The Overachiever's Reset: A Better Way to Succeed, Without Losing Yourself https://www.amazon.com.au/Overachievers-Reset-Succeed-Without-Yourself/dp/1394394918/ref=sr_1_1?crid=G5J4MAY7L2LB&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.dFnQsG0u6Q1wzNVNtXIdsw.CBN2KnN6TsMhnFglS5j1cOl5WAJQpJUDk-jd6l4EZFU&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+overachievers+reset+fleur+marks&qid=1764822326&sprefix=the+overachievers+reset+fleur+marks%2Caps%2C253&sr=8-1 https://www.instagram.com/fleurjmarks/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/fleurmarks/ https://www.facebook.com/fleurjmarks/ email - fleur@fleurmarks.com.au Fleur’s Bio Fleur Marks is a globally recognised leadership trainer, keynote speaker and strategist who transforms leaders to show up as high-impact performers — sustainably, and without losing themselves in the process. After 20 years as an agency leader, a life-threatening health crisis — rare autoimmune disease, breast cancer, twenty-three rounds of chemotherapy — forced her to rebuild everything she thought she knew about success. She has since guided over 10,000 leaders, delivering high-impact programs including female leadership initiatives for clients including Qantas, NAB, Atlassian, Scentre Group and L’Oréal. The Overachiever’s Reset is her debut book. Want support on this journey? Come join us inside Honey Club - where we melt these blocks together, one breath, one practice, one deep remembering at a time. Find out more at julietenner.love or visit: https://julie-tenner.newzenler.com/courses/honeyclub Reach out to Bridget for 1:1 coaching - bridgetwood.life

