
Episode #425
The Wife Who Opened the Door with Elana Frank
What if the person who could not take your call was reachable through the person sitting beside him? In this episode, Elana Frank, founder and CEO of the Jewish Fertility Foundation, shares how a conversation in a baby pool at her local Jewish community center in Atlanta led her to build an organization that now operates 11 offices and grants over a million dollars a year in fertility assistance. Elana went through IVF in Israel, had two sons, and then spent five years struggling to have a third. Her path to building JFF ran through hundreds of coffee meetings and one board member who knew exactly whose wife to introduce her to. [00:04:20] What She Does and Who She Serves CEO and founder of the Jewish Fertility Foundation Helps intended parents on their path to parenthood Pays for fertility treatments and provides free emotional support Runs educational trainings in the communities they serve [00:05:05] Her Own Infertility Journey Has three boys born through various fertility treatments Her journey started about 18 years ago after moving to Israel Took a year and a half to understand what was happening with her body IVF was free in Israel, so cost was never the obstacle it is in America [00:07:15] The Conversation in the Baby Pool Sat with two other moms at the Jewish community center in Atlanta They compared the emotional toll of IVF, which was identical Then they started talking about their $60,000 twins and their $30,000 daughter She was genuinely shocked; she had no idea what treatment cost in America [00:08:02] Starting with Coffee Dates Got out of that pool 11 years ago and started talking to anyone who would listen Was still flying back and forth to Israel transferring embryos and failing Asked people directly: I have an idea, maybe it is crazy, will you have coffee with me Talked to fertility doctors, philanthropists, therapists, and attorneys [00:09:30] Building the First Board The people drawn to the idea became her first board of directors Most had been through their own path to having children Officially got going in May 2015 The organization is now 11 years in [00:10:14] What Inspires Her Now Nearly a 20-person staff, all of whom she describes as badass women Proud of building a culture at a place she actually wants to work Will offer over a million dollars in fertility grants this year Most inspiring today is watching her team excel and run their own departments [00:11:54] From a Program Organization to a Fundraising One They have figured out how to run the programs well The focus now is empowering everyone who touches the organization Staff, board, and volunteers all participate in fundraising Anyone can be part of transforming someone's life [00:12:42] The Story of Her Third Child The first part of her journey was hard; the five years for her third were hell She and her husband tried to adopt and faced a three-year wait list in Georgia She had once helped a single intended mother find sperm Years later that woman called to say she had two extra embryos [00:13:56] Embryo Donation and Nine Babies She asked whether she could be considered for those embryos and the answer was yes Her seven-year-old came from that process She carried him but he is not biologically related to her Because she speaks about it publicly, JFF has helped bring nine babies into the world [00:16:03] Why Infertility Is Not Only a Women's Issue Roughly 25% female, 25% male, 25% both together, and 25% unexplained Women carry the physical burden but men are very much part of it JFF offers free men's support groups and a men's Fertility Buddies program They also support intended grandparents, who experience their own loss [00:17:50] The Vision Going Forward Just opened their 11th office in Houston two weeks before recording Currently in conversation with 14 more US communities Financial assistance is still community-based, so saying no is painful A $3.3 million organization today aiming for $4.5 million by 2030 [00:19:54] The Relationship That Changed Everything People kept telling her to talk to Jay Kaminsky, CEO of the Marcus Foundation in Atlanta He was not ready to take her call in the early days; JFF had not proven itself yet After about a year, a board member suggested reaching out to his wife instead Elana listened, acted, and took her to coffee [00:21:05] Sleeping on the Couch She shared the vision and the concrete steps they had already taken His wife said she had the same dream and thought the work was awesome Then she said Elana was ready to talk to her husband They still joke that she threatened to make him sleep on the couch until he called back [00:21:47] What That One Call Made Possible She got to pitch the concept to a major mission-aligned philanthropist The foundation allowed her to quit her job and become the first full-time CEO They recently funded a $3 million gift covering the next three years Elana credits that relationship with creating the Jewish Fertility Foundation [00:25:30] Final Word: The Services Are Free Emotional support groups are open to anyone regardless of faith or background You can get a fertility buddy no matter where you live The goal is making sure nobody feels alone on the journey KEY QUOTES "People always think infertility is a woman's issue, but it's only actually 25% female, 25% male, 25% the male and female together that isn't working, and then 25% is unexplained." - Elana Frank "Relationships are everything, and I'm a person who really can listen and then take action." - Elana Frank CONNECT WITH ELANA FRANK Website: https://www.jewishfertilityfoundation.org LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elanafrank Instagram: https://instagram.com/jewishfertilityfoundation Facebook: https://facebook.com/jewishfertilityfoundation Thanks for tuning in! 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