Marriage iQ

Nobody hands you a blueprint for marriage. You figure it out through misunderstandings, hurt feelings, unmet expectations, and a lot of trial and error.On Marriage IQ, marriage and sex researcher Dr. Heidi Hastings and physician Dr. Scott Hastings share research-backed tools, expert interviews, and real-life insights to help you communicate more effectively, strengthen emotional and physical intimacy, navigate conflict, and build the marriage you actually want.Become a more intelligent spouse.New episodes every Tuesday.

Marriage iQ is a society podcast hosted by Unknown Host, with 155 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Unknown Host hosts Marriage iQ, a society show with 155 episodes published.

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  Episode #151

  Episode 151 - Who Are You When Marriage Gets Hard? with Therapy Brothers

  Sep 29, 202639 minS1

  Losing yourself to keep the peace can quietly change the way you show up in your marriage. In this episode of Marriage IQ , Dr. Heidi Hastings and Dr. Scott Hastings talk with brothers and therapists Tyler and Brannon Patrick of the Therapy Brothers about integrity, identity, and the subtle ways we can betray ourselves to avoid conflict, rejection, or disapproval. They explore what it means to “hold your shape under pressure”—staying connected to your spouse without giving up your voice, preferences, values, or sense of self. You’ll hear why people-pleasing can actually erode trust, how healthy tension and differentiation can strengthen connection, and why lasting change may require looking beneath the behaviors we want to fix to the beliefs and wounds underneath them. Connect With The Therapy Brothers : www.therapybrothers.org/marriageiq Make Your Relationship More Fun! Download Spark’d , our fun couples app, and start connecting, laughing, and growing together! ❤️ Download Spark’d here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://dateyourspouse.com/sparkd-app/ ⁠ SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ== ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

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  Episode #150

  Episode 150 - Can One Person Really Change a Marriage?

  Sep 22, 202626 minS1

  What happens when just one person decides to show up differently in a marriage? In this episode, we’re telling some remarkable stories of couples who began making small changes-speaking more gently, showing affection, reaching out after years apart, choosing forgiveness-and watched something begin to shift in their relationships. We recorded this episode in Kigali, Rwanda, after teaching in a new community and returning to communities we taught last year. We asked one simple question: Did anything actually change? What we heard surprised us. These aren’t stories about controlling or fixing your spouse. They’re about agency-and what can happen when one person changes the pattern. If you’ve ever thought, “I’d work on my marriage, but my spouse needs to change first,” this episode may give you a very different way to think about what’s possible. Because sometimes, changing your marriage really does start with you. Related episodes: Episode 47 — Mind Games: How to Fix the Biases That Shape the Way You See Your Spouse Episode 48 — ⁠⁠⁠ How Over-functioning Hurts Your Marriage with Dr. Kathleen Smith Episode 51 — How to Be Happy Even When Life Feels Hard ⁠⁠⁠ THE INTIMACY VAULT IS OPEN! You don’t need more generic marriage advice… What if you had 15 different expert-created resources to choose from-and you could start with the one that actually speaks to what YOUR marriage needs right now? That’s the idea behind the 2026 Intimacy Vault: Unlocking Deeper Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Inside you’ll find: Expert video workshops Guided workbooks An intimacy assessment A 90-minute relationship course Private audio experiences A 15-day couples pleasure challenge A completely planned role-play date And practical tools for desire, passion, play, shame, communication, parenthood & more. And for a limited time, you can get the entire Vault for just $35 instead of $50 through my link below! Coupon Code: HEIDI26 ⁠https://shop.dateyourspouse.com/products/2026-intimacy-vault?sca_ref=12218606.avOmIoDYAX⁠ ⏰ The promotional price ends September 30. Make Your Relationship More Fun! Download Spark’d , our fun couples app, and start connecting, laughing, and growing together! ❤️ Download Spark’d here! ⁠⁠⁠ https://dateyourspouse.com/sparkd-app/ ⁠⁠ SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ== ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

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  Episode #149

  Episode 149 - Sexual Shame in Marriage: How to Feel Free, Confident & Connected with Dan Purcell

  Sep 15, 202642 minS1

  You can love your spouse, want a great sex life, and still carry shame into the bedroom. Shame about your body. Shame about what you want-or don’t want. Shame about what you were taught was “good,” “bad,” or even okay to talk about. And sometimes those messages are so deeply ingrained that we don’t even realize they’re shaping our sexual choices. This week, we’re joined by our friend Dan Purcell, host of Get Your Marriage On and creator of the Spark’d and Intimately Us apps, for an honest conversation about how sexual shame shows up in marriage-and how to begin loosening its grip. We talk about body image, sexual confidence, religious and cultural messages, boundaries, fantasy, mindfulness, and what happens when you and your spouse want different things sexually. Most importantly, we explore how to recognize when shame-not your values or your authentic desires-is making decisions for you. If you want to feel more comfortable in your own body, more confident in what you want, and more free and connected sexually with your spouse, this conversation is for you. Dan has created free resources for Marriage iQ listeners : getyourmarriageon.com/marriageiq THE INTIMACY VAULT IS OPEN! You don’t need more generic marriage advice… What if you had 15 different expert-created resources to choose from-and you could start with the one that actually speaks to what YOUR marriage needs right now? That’s the idea behind the 2026 Intimacy Vault: Unlocking Deeper Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Inside you’ll find: Expert video workshops Guided workbooks An intimacy assessment A 90-minute relationship course Private audio experiences A 15-day couples pleasure challenge A completely planned role-play date And practical tools for desire, passion, play, shame, communication, parenthood & more. And for a limited time, you can get the entire Vault for just $35 instead of $50 through my link below! Coupon Code: HEIDI26 https://shop.dateyourspouse.com/products/2026-intimacy-vault?sca_ref=12218606.avOmIoDYAX ⏰ The promotional price ends September 30. Make Your Relationship More Fun! Download Spark’d , our fun couples app, and start connecting, laughing, and growing together! ❤️ Download Spark’d here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://dateyourspouse.com/sparkd-app/ SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ== ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

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  Episode #148

  Episode 148 - Knowing Your Needs: Why It Matters for Your Marriage with Dr. Brittany McGeehan

  Sep 8, 202635 minS1

  You can be incredibly capable, dependable, and attuned to everyone else’s needs-and still be disconnected from yourself. In this episode of Marriage IQ, Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings talk with psychologist Dr. Brittany McGeehan about the Powerhouse Paradox: how the same traits that can help you succeed at work, parenting, leadership, and life can create problems at home when you can’t turn them off. Brittany explains how hypervigilance, over-functioning, control, and the constant pressure to keep everything moving can affect your marriage, including intimacy and your ability to relax and connect with your spouse. She also introduces the idea of self-trust; learning to recognize and respond to the signals your body is giving you rather than automatically reacting to everything around you. The conversation explores how childhood experiences can shape the way we show up in marriage, how to tell the difference between a current relationship problem and an old wound being triggered, and why sometimes the answer isn't getting your partner to do things your way-but understanding what is happening inside you first. If you're the person everyone depends on, this conversation may help you consider a different question: What happens when you stop managing everyone else long enough to notice what is happening inside you? #MarriageIQ#MarriageAdvice#SelfTrust#HealthyMarriage #EmotionalConnection Connect With Dr. Brittany McGeehan : linkedin.com/in/brittanymcgeehanphd Podcast : ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ The Aligned Powerhouse podcast Here are links to previous episodes that relate to today's topic : Episode 48 — How Over-Functioning Hurts Your Marriage with Dr. Kathleen Smith Episode 2 — Knowing Yourself: A Cornerstone of an Intelligent Marriage Episode 15 — Striking the Perfect Balance: Mastering Individuality and Intimacy in Marriage Episode 30 — How to Stop Self-Silencing and Start Authentically Connecting Make Your Relationship More Fun! Download Spark’d , our fun couples app, and start connecting, laughing, and growing together! ❤️ Download Spark’d here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://dateyourspouse.com/sparkd-app/ SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ== ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

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  Episode #147

  Episode 147 - Divorce Attorney Reveals Why Marriages Fall Apart with Nicole Sodoma

  Sep 1, 202643 minS1

  Most marriages do not suddenly fall apart. They slowly weaken when couples stop addressing small problems, repairing after conflict, and intentionally investing in their relationship. In this episode, Nicole Sodoma joins Drs. Heidi and Scott Hastings to reveal why unresolved conflict often matters more than the issue couples are fighting about. They discuss contempt, empathy, financial awareness, losing yourself in marriage, and why both spouses must be willing to repair and reconnect. You’ll also hear an honest conversation about how to know whether a struggling marriage may still be repaired, what divorce can actually cost emotionally and financially, and how small, intentional changes today may protect your relationship tomorrow. Connect With Nicole Sodoma : ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ nicolesodoma.com Grab your copy of Nicole Sodoma's book right here : Please Don't Say You're Sorry Grab your copy of Journal and Workbook : Please Don't Say You're Sorry Disclosure: As an Amazon Associate, Marriage IQ earns from qualifying purchases. We only recommend books and resources from guests and experts whose work aligns with our mission of helping couples build stronger marriages. Grab your copy of Viktor Frankl's book right here : ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ Man's Search for Meaning Make Your Relationship More Fun! Download Spark’d , our fun couples app, and start connecting, laughing, and growing together! ❤️ Download Spark’d here! ⁠⁠⁠ https://dateyourspouse.com/sparkd-app/ SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/marriage.iq?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=MXVnYWlpYnVtcmtvaQ== ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61558652547411⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ▶️YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.youtube.com/@MarriageIQ/⁠⁠

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