
Episode #92
When Grief Finds You: Loss, Regret & Reaching Out While You Can
Sometimes the episode you planned to record is not the episode life gives you. In this deeply personal episode of Live & Be Great , I process grief in real time after learning that my college friend and former Savannah State University Amplifiers dance teammate, Danielle, passed away unexpectedly. Her death brought up more than sadness. It made me confront the guilt that can come when adult friendships grow distant, what it means to be the person who has always tried to keep everybody connected, and the pressure we put on ourselves to become more successful, more accomplished, more healed, or more “together” before we allow ourselves to fully enjoy our lives. I found myself asking questions I think many of us eventually have to face: Why didn’t I reach out? Has too much time passed? Why am I waiting until I reach some imaginary finish line before I let myself live? And whose standard am I using to decide whether I’ve done enough? We talk about friendship, ADHD, being “the glue,” grief, mortality, perfectionism, changing definitions of success, the expectations many millennials grew up with, and why sometimes the simplest thing you can do is tell somebody, “I was thinking about you.” This episode is also a reminder that you don’t need the perfect words, the perfect body, the perfect career, the perfect amount of money, or the perfect version of yourself before you reconnect with the people you love or allow yourself to experience joy. If somebody keeps crossing your mind, reach out. If there is something that gives you even a moment of genuine joy, make room for it. And if grief has you questioning your life, your relationships, or what you want your next chapter to look like, you do not have to figure all of that out by yourself. 00:00 — The episode I didn't expect to record 06:30 — Friendship, distance & being the glue 13:30 — Guilt, grief & growing apart as adults 21:00 — What are we working so hard for? 29:00 — Death, memories & how I want to be remembered 34:50 — Changing the standards we live by 36:50 — Reach out while you still can Ready for support understanding your patterns, your story, and what you want your next chapter to look like? Book a free consultation with me: https://bookings.cloud.microsoft/book/LiveBeGreatLLC1@liveandbegreat.com/?ismsaljsauthenabled Explore Live & Be Great: https://liveandbegreat.com/ Be Seen. Name the Pattern. Understand the Why. Choose on Purpose. Live & Be Great. #Grief #AdultFriendships #LiveAndBeGreat


