
Episode #16
Stepping Into Me (with Lyndal Schultz)
In this episode, we welcome Lyndal Schultz, June's cover of I Am Ready Magazine and founder of Stepping Into Me. Lyndal and Reah discuss Lyndal's professional approach to relationship healing for both individuals and couples as well as briefly touching on her magazine feature. Lyndal Schultz's Professional Background and Approach Lyndal brings over 25 years of experience in corporate project rescue, where she specialized in identifying patterns and resolving issues in failing projects. Her professional journey expanded into volunteering in the cancer space, motivated by her and her mother's simultaneous cancer experiences. Lyndal holds multiple qualifications in coaching and counseling and is committed to a flexible, client-centered approach, integrating various modalities such as Reiki and energy work. Her work has evolved to focus on supporting women, addressing trauma, and navigating family and domestic violence, with a core emphasis on helping clients strip away cultural and familial conditioning to discover their authentic needs and live from a place of self-authority. Concept of Self-Authority and Identity Formation Lyndal describes her role as a 'self-authority guide,' assisting clients in understanding themselves deeply enough to live authentically, free from imposed cultural, familial, or societal patterns. The discussion highlights how much of personal identity is shaped by environment, religion, and upbringing, often unconsciously, and underscores the importance of self-inquiry and questioning inherited beliefs. Both speakers note that self-discovery involves recognizing generational patterns and distinguishing between one's own needs and those inherited from others, with particular attention to how people may either fully embrace or completely reject their upbringing, especially regarding religion and addiction, and the impact of generational trauma. The Four Pillars of Needs and Proactive Needs & Boundaries Method Lyndal introduces her 'Four Pillars of Needs' as the foundation of her Proactive Needs and Boundaries Method, which she developed over several years and formally named recently. Lyndal and Reah critique the prevalent 'toxic boundary culture' that encourages cutting people off without addressing underlying needs, advocating instead for boundaries as signals of unmet needs rather than as walls. The women emphasize how most people can articulate what they don't want but struggle to define what they do want, which is essential for effective communication and relationship satisfaction. Communication and Relationship Dynamics The conversation explores the challenges of communication in relationships, emphasizing that people often expect others to know their needs without explicit discussion. Lyndal notes that individuals must first identify their own needs before communicating them, and that expecting one person to meet all needs is unrealistic. She advocates for proactive conversations about deal-breakers and non-negotiables early in relationships and highlights the importance of grace, flexibility, and regular communication in maintaining healthy relationships. The speakers agree that communication skills are rarely taught, leading to reactive rather than proactive relationship management. Lyndal's Offerings and Resources for Self-Discovery Lyndal highlights that individuals do not have to navigate self-discovery alone and offers various resources, including free and premium tools, on her website steppingintome.com (and .com.au). She provides a Four Pillars course to help people identify their needs and show up authentically, and works with both individuals and couples, preferring that couples first identify their needs separately before coming together to communicate them. Lyndal also recently started a YouTube channel, 'Stepping Into Me,' featuring videos and empowerment content, and encourages people to reach out for support, emphasizing the importance of community and guided self-discovery. Get to know Lyndal via www.steppingintome.com or www.steppingintome.com/au . Experience Lyndal's cover feature in I Am Ready magazine at https://www.iamready.press/issue-2/ and watch her new channel on YouTube: https://www.YouTube.com/@steppingintome ! View all of Reah's links at https://linktr.ee/reahhagues , subscribe to her Patreon via https://www.patreon.com/cw/Falolityllc, or email her at Reahdr@falolity.net! #justthewhoofuspodcast, #Falolityllc, #lyndalschultz, #fourpillarsofneeds, #femaleempowerment, #coupleshealing, #counseling, #emotionalrepair, #couplestherapy, #relationshiprebuilding, #relationshiprepair, #steppingintome

