Holy Desires

Imagine taking your wife out to a beautiful dinner. You finish your appetizer, your entrée, and dessert while she has barely touched her first course. Then you sit back, satisfied, while she stays at the table hungry...

This is a touchy subject, and I almost didn't record it. What do you do when you have real feelings about your wife's changing body? Maybe it's weight. Maybe it's the way pregnancy, stress, illness, or just the years...

<p>Here's something that might surprise you. Some of the most common themes in my Holy Desires coaching calls, both group and one-on-one, have very little to do with sex itself. Three out of the four biggest brakes on a...

<p>82% of the men in my current Holy Desires class are dealing with some kind of difference in desire with their wives. If you are in that 82%, brother, you are in good company. I want you to know that there is real...

<p>Confession time. For years, my first instinct when something felt off in my marriage was to fix it. Diagnose the problem, apply a solution, move on. Turns out I was using the wrong mental model. </p><p>Most of us...

<p>If things feel distant in your marriage right now, I want you to remember something really important: you already know what it feels like to be close to your wife. It's in your memory. A specific night, a specific...

<p>Today, I'll share three things I've learned about what it actually looks like to prioritize your marriage. </p><p>First, I think most of us need to get curious again. We're resourceful in every other area of life...

<p>I was on the Doug Hinderer Show this week talking about physical intimacy from the husband's perspective. It was a great conversation. But a woman called in and shared something that's been weighing on me since. She...

<p>This is the replay of Day 4 of the Dealing with Differences in Desire challenge — a workshop for Catholic husbands. </p><p>Over 300 men registered for this four-day experience, and Day 4 was different from the rest...

<p>We've talked about the foundation. You understand some of the dynamics beneath the surface. Now what do you actually do? </p><p>This is Day 3 of the Dealing with Differences in Desire workshop, and it's the most...

<p>You know there's a gap between you and your wife when it comes to desire. But have you ever stopped to ask why it's there?</p><p>This is Day 2 of the Dealing with Differences in Desires workshop. </p><p>I dig into...

<p>I just kicked off a live 4-day challenge with a group of Catholic husbands on how to lovingly deal with differences in sexual desire. This is the first session. I share why the usual approach of "let's just...

<p>Almost every Catholic husband I've talked to wrestles with this one: you want more intimacy, she seems content with less, and you're stuck wondering if this is just the way it's going to be. I get it. I hear it all...

<p>Most of us have encountered two very different attitudes toward sex in Catholic circles. On one side, there's the culture's message that sex is basically recreation. On the other, there's a hyper-restrictive view...

<p>Confession time: I am not always easy to live with. A few days ago, I caught myself being grumpy with Sarah and the kids, and it turned out the whole thing was rooted in a frustration at work that had nothing to do...