He Blamed It On Me

Why didn't you just leave? It's the question almost every abuse victim gets, and it's one I've had to sit with myself. In this episode, I get honest about why I stayed in a marriage that turned abusive: the fifteen good...

This is the chapter where I started changing my behavior, not because I did anything wrong, but because I was exhausted from the consequences of living my normal life. I evaluated every invitation. I memorized every...

You said sorry before you even knew what you did. Somewhere along the way, "it's my fault" stopped being a conclusion and became your default setting. This episode is about the blame dynamic: what happens when one...

The next few months had one thing in common: somehow, it was always my fault. A natural reaction. A missed sentence. A chair facing the wrong direction. No matter how carefully I moved through my own life, it was never...

If you've ever tried to find a therapist and felt like the system was working against you, it kind of is. In this episode, we dig into the real numbers behind America's mental health care crisis: the shortage, the cost...

What do you do when you finally have an answer but no idea what to do with it? In this chapter, I'm holding everything together by calming the kids, talking him down from leaving, and convincing my husband he needed...

Can someone love you and still hurt you? It's not a simple yes or no answer. In this episode, we break down the difference between hurt that comes from mistakes and hurt that comes from control, and why loving someone...

Have you ever done everything right and watched it fall apart anyway? I called instead of texting. I tried to fix the mood the way I always had. I did everything I knew how to do. None of it worked. This is the night I...

In my marriage, saying the word "gaslighting" didn't start a conversation; it ended one. If you've ever wondered whether what's happening to you is gaslighting or been told you're using the word wrong, this episode is...

After one conversation changed everything, the weeks that followed were a slow unraveling. Every day brought a new accusation, a new reason to doubt myself, and a new version of me I didn't recognize. I thought I was a...

On our 15th dating anniversary, I sat across from my husband at a coffee shop and told him something completely honest: that a man had hit on me the night before, and I'd said no. What I got back was an accusation of...

Welcome to He Blamed It On Me. This podcast is my unfiltered story of living inside, leaving, and recovering from a marriage that went from amazing to abusive in one conversation. In this episode you'll hear why I am...