
Episode #93
93. From global parenting to being an empty nester - with Sam Frearson-Tubito
Send us Fan Mail My guest today is author Sam Frearson-Tubito, who published her beautiful memoir this summer: Beneath a Borrowed Sky: One Woman's Search for the True Meaning of Home . Sam is a fellow expat empty nester based in Italy, with four young adults strewn across the globe, from Sydney to the US West Coast to Europe. Growing up as a TCK herself, in a dozen or so countries, and with stints at British boarding schools, Sam bears the scars of being raised with a stiff upper lip, and made it her parent mission to guide her children differently. Of course, empty nesting is a big topic of our conversation, as is parenting in general. Other topics are grief, adjusting, transitions, and the importance of finding purpose at every stage in life. And then we finally talk about writing, and Sam's book, and about memoir writing, impostor syndrome, perfectionism and the need for authenticity and perseverance when it comes to publishing. Books (and people) that were mentioned: Ruth van Reken: "Third Culture Kids" (4th edition out October 6), Megan Norton-Newbanks: "Belonging Beyond Borders" Tanya Crossman: "Misunderstood: The Impact of Growing Up Overseas in the 21st Century" I also want to mention Lauren Wells: "The Grief Tower" , amongst others. Sam's location timeline: 1971 | St. Kitts & Nevis 1973 | Bordeaux, France 1975 | Otford, England 1976 | Kinshasa, DRC 1977 | Lubumbashi, DRC 1978 | Abidjan, Côte d’Ivoire 1980 | Boarding School, All Hallows in Somerset, UK 1983 | Boarding School, New Hall School in Essex, UK 1984 | Hong Kong 1985 | Lusaka, Zambia 1989 | Cairo, Egypt 1991 | Angers, France 1994 | Marmaris, Turkey 1995 | London, England 1997 | Milan, Italy 1999 | Bologna, Italy 2001 | Bussum, Netherlands 2008 | Baarn, Netherlands 2009 | Tokyo, Japan 2013 | Portland, Oregon, USA 2020 | Modena, Italy 2023 | Madrid, Spain 2024 | Athens, Greece (7 months), then back to Madrid 2025 | Valencia, Spain 2026 | Modena, Italy For more information, find Sam on Instagram , LinkedIn , or visit her website, Wandering Identity . Beneath a Borrowed Sky is widely available.






