
Episode #15
Victoria DiGiovanni | What Happens When Grief Becomes a Song?
Episode 15 ~What Happens When Grief Becomes a Song? What happens when someone who has spent years supporting grieving people suddenly finds herself living the loss she understands professionally? In November 2024, Victoria’s longtime partner died suddenly. As a music therapist and grief counselor working in hospice care, she knew the language and theories of grief. But experiencing it personally brought an entirely different understanding. During a four-month leave, a lyric came to her during an intense grief burst: “Why does everything have to make sense when you’re gone?” One song grew into The Blue Album , a deeply personal musical project shaped around William Worden’s Tasks of Mourning. Victoria and Teresa talk about grieving a partner, why tears do not mean someone is “stuck,” and how music can give emotions somewhere to go when words are difficult to find. Victoria also shares simple ways people can engage with music, even without musical experience, and why continuing a bond with someone who died can be part of moving forward rather than leaving them behind. About Victoria: Victoria is a music therapist and grief counselor working in hospice/palliative care. She is also conducting doctoral research exploring music, grief, songwriting, and heartbeat song recordings. As the artist SH3, she created The Blue Album from her own experience of partner loss. In This Episode ● How losing her longtime partner changed Victoria’s understanding of grief as a professional ● How one lyric during a grief burst became The Blue Album ● William Worden’s Tasks of Mourning and why grief is not a linear process ● How intentional listening, improvisation, and songwriting can support emotional expression ● What continuing bonds can look like after someone dies ● How Victoria’s grief influenced her hospice work and doctoral research What You’ll Take Away ● Tears are not proof that you are moving backward. ● Grief does not follow a neat sequence or timeline. ● Music can help express feelings that are difficult to name. ● You do not need musical training to use music meaningfully. ● Healing does not require ending your connection with someone you love. Memorable Quotes ● Victoria: “You lose your best friend.” ● Victoria: “These emotions are just a human representation of the connection that we had.” ● Victoria: “Why does everything have to make sense when you’re gone?” ● Victoria: “You don’t need any music experience at all. The desire to engage in music is the only prerequisite.” ● Victoria: “This isn’t goodbye. It’s until we meet again.” ● Victoria: “Your tears are not a reflection of regression.” Mentioned in This Episode ● The Blue Album — Victoria’s grief-centered music project / available on music streaming platforms ( https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/99wcci0tvnojcqoki3hi2/6.-Until-We-Meet-Again.mp3rlkey=f62euqytqruiwe4xkwjgfzkmt&st=11o88tbn&e=2&dl=0 ) ● William Worden’s Tasks of Mourning ● Palliative and Hospice Care ● Romina Di Gasparo — Juno-nominated singer-songwriter and guitarist JOIN THE CONVERSATION Email: femalevoiceslifelosspodcast@gmail.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/femalevoiceslifeandloss/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/femalevoiceslifelosspodcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@femalevoiceslifelossYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@FemaleVoicesLifeLossPodcast Subscribe, share, and leave a review to help more women feel seen, supported, and less alone. CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sh3official Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sh3official/ Email: sh3official@gmail.com Website:https://www.sh3official.com/






