Hosted by Kim Polinder · 🇺🇸 US · EN · 16 episodes
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Most of us aren't fighting because we're bad communicators. We're fighting because our nervous systems are hijacked, our past is leaking into the present, and we don't know how to translate what we feel into something another human can actually hear.This podcast is about what's really happening underneath conflict, shutdown, anxiety, resentment, and emotional exhaustion in relationships. Not pop psychology. Not quick fixes. And not "just communicate better."Hosted by Kim Polinder, associate therapist and relationship coach, each episode breaks down the emotional mechanics behind fights, attachment patterns, shame responses, trauma adaptations, and self-esteem. You'll learn why insight alone doesn't change behavior, how coping strategies that once kept you safe can start sabotaging your relationships, and what it actually looks like to build emotional regulation, repair after conflict, and self-trust over time.Expect grounded psychology, real relational examples, and practical langua
Kim Polinder hosts Engineering Love, a society show with 16 episodes published.
Most people treat resentment like something to push away or white-knuckle through. But before you can release it, you need to know what you're actually holding — because not all resentment is the same, and the way you wo
Avoidant attachment isn't one category. Dismissive and fearful avoidant patterns respond very differently in conflict, and using the wrong repair strategy can make things worse. If one of you demands calm and the other e
More than half of U.S. adults are now using AI to manage stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm. Among people who already use AI for mental health, nearly half say it's the first place they turn when something feels wro
In this episode, Kim sits down with eating disorder specialist Sarah Burney to unpack what's really going on beneath "food noise," body dissatisfaction, and chronic struggles with eating. This conversation moves beyond s
In this episode, I'm joined by Alex Beattie, founder of The Divorce Planner, to talk about what actually helps in the earliest stages of separation and divorce. Alex is a divorce prep coach who works with people before t
You understand why you avoid. You see the pattern. And you're still doing it. In this episode, Kim Polinder explores the frustrating gap between self-awareness and actual change — and why insight alone rarely leads to di
In Episode 10, Kim opens Season Two by breaking down procrastination in a way most people have never heard it explained before. This episode isn't about productivity, discipline, or time management. It's about emotional
In Episode 9, Kim answers listener questions about anxious–avoidant dynamics, communicating with partners who shut down, chronic self-doubt and perfectionism, and navigating a relationship when one or both partners are s
In Episode 8, Kim answers listener questions about trauma bonds, abusive relationship cycles, repeated infidelity, and navigating boundaries with family members after postpartum harm. This episode looks closely at why "s
Episode 7 dives deep into attachment dynamics, shutdown, commitment anxiety, and the hidden costs of people-pleasing. Kim answers listener questions about anxious–avoidant relationships, silent treatment, marriage timeli
In Episode 6, Kim is joined by relationship coach Mason O'Sullivan to answer listener questions about empathy, emotional support, grief, and long-standing self-sabotage patterns. This episode focuses on one of the most c
In Episode 5, Kim answers listener questions about boundaries in family and romantic relationships, people-pleasing, guilt, and the emotional fallout of avoiding conflict. This episode breaks down why boundaries feel so
In Episode 4, Kim answers listener questions about self-esteem, identity, people-pleasing, and how to build a sense of self without losing connection to others. This episode explores how self-esteem is formed early in li
In Episode 3, Kim breaks down resentment: what it is, why it lingers, and how to work with it without letting it harden you. This episode introduces a key distinction between toxic resentment and healthy resentment, espe
In Episode 2, Kim revisits the concept of love languages and expands it beyond Gary Chapman's framework to include what she calls childhood love languages: the ways love, attention, neglect, and reassurance were first ex
In Episode 1 of Engineering Love, Kim introduces the core philosophy behind the podcast: that love isn't something that magically happens, it's something that can be learned, built, and repaired with the right tools. Dra
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