Embrace The Dark and The Light
Anger Is Not The Problem
This conversation is all about anger, from its origins within us to its significance in the context of my own pregnancy and postpartum experiences. You can find yourself in these stories, even if postpartum rage wasn't your experience, because we all experience anger, even if we stuff it down for years or decades. I go into how anger's primal nature serves as a protective emotion, and the importance of acknowledging and tending to it with tenderness. The discussion also emphasizes the connection between anger and grief, shedding light on the complex emotional dynamics at play. You'll learn my tools for working with anger and how I move through it as a work in progress. Takeaways Anger is a primal and necessary emotion that serves as a boundary-protecting signal. Tending to anger with tenderness and acknowledging its connection to grief is essential for emotional well-being. Chapters 00:00 Landing in Our Bodies 01:02 The Uncomfortable Emotion 03:13 Primal Anger and Survival 05:05 Postpartum Anger and Boundaries 07:23 Healthy Anger as a Boundary-Protecting Emotion 11:13 Tending to Anger with Tenderness 13:22 Channeling Anger Appropriately 16:50 Anger and Grief RESOURCES Gabor Maté — physician and author known for his work on trauma, addiction, and the mind-body connection. His work on anger and boundary violation, and the link between chronic anger suppression and physical illness, appears across his books, most notably When the Body Says No . (Recommend citing this specific title on air for accuracy.) Thich Nhat Hanh — Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk and teacher. His teaching on anger — treating it with the same tenderness a mother gives a crying baby — is most fully laid out in his book Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames . Worth naming this title directly since it's the most anger-specific source in his catalog.
