
Episode #21
Ep. 121: Raising Them Up to Let Them Go with Tabitha Deller
There's a moment every parent eventually faces — the one where you stop steering the boat and start becoming the lighthouse. For Tabitha Deller, that shift didn't happen all at once. It came slowly, through raising four sons, trusting God with things she couldn't control, and learning that love sometimes looks like letting go. Tabitha is a writer, Bible teacher, and speaker who has spent years helping women encounter the truth of Scripture and the love of Jesus. In this conversation, she shares her own story — from a childhood where faith was familiar but hadn't yet become personal, to a college season where she began walking with Jesus for herself, to the ongoing work of parenting sons who are now grown and living their own lives. At the center of this episode is the tension so many moms live in: how do you raise your kids with truth, boundaries, and real presence — and then trust God enough to let them go? Tabitha's answer isn't a formula; it's a picture: boat, tugboat, lighthouse. And a reminder that sometimes the most faithful thing you can do is less, not more. What We Cover: Tabitha's journey from head knowledge to heart knowledge in her faith Why purpose can look different in different seasons The importance of Christian community and discipleship Trusting God through suffering and difficult circumstances Letting go as your children become adults Creating a home where your kids know they can come back with hard questions Holding truth, boundaries, love, and relationship together Why apologizing to your children can model strength rather than weakness Moving from the "boat" to the "tugboat" to the "lighthouse" as a parent Choosing prayer over trying to control someone else's journey Tabitha also reminds us that hard does not automatically mean bad. God can be working in the very seasons we would never have chosen, producing endurance, character, and hope as we learn to trust Him more deeply. Key Quotes: "We are the lighthouse. We are not even in the water with them... they know they can look towards it, and if they ever lose their way, that light is going to be there and they can find their way back." "Rules without relationship equal rebellion." Connect with Tabitha Deller: Website: http://www.tabithadeller.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tabdeller/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100064928052076 Substack: https://substack.com/@tabithadeller Join the Conversation: Head to Instagram or our Facebook group and tell us which part of this picture stayed with you — the boat, the tugboat, or the lighthouse. Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echos_of_impact/ Echos of Impact Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/echosofimpact Final Notes: If this episode encouraged you, follow Echos of Impact and leave a review. It genuinely helps more women find these conversations.






