Hosted by Ilja Abbattista · 🇺🇸 US · EN-GB · 38 episodes
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Dating on High Alert dives into the messy reality of relationships and life, neurodivergence, trauma, masking, and survival mode - because when your nervous system has spent years trying to keep you safe, connection gets complicated. Hosted by Ilja Abbattista - trauma-informed coach, survivor advocate, and AuDHD truth-teller - this podcast explores ADHD, autism, CPTSD, attachment, emotional overwhelm, nervous system responses, and what it actually means to build safety in love and life after survival. For neurodivergent people, trauma survivors, partners, and couples trying to understand each other more deeply. Because this isn’t just about dating. It’s about learning to hear yourself again, in life and in love. New episodes weekly. Until next spiral.
Ilja Abbattista hosts Dating on High Alert, a society show with 38 episodes published.
Send us Fan Mail What really happens when you start ADHD medication? In this episode of Dating on High Alert, Ilja Abbattista shares her honest personal experience of being diagnosed with ADHD in her 50s and starting sti
Send us Fan Mail Have you ever told someone everything about your past, only to watch them pull away? Maybe you've called it honesty, or you've called it vulnerability. Maybe you've convinced yourself that if they're goi
Send us Fan Mail What happens when you read a message, mean to reply… and then completely forget? And what happens when someone does the same thing to you? In this episode of Dating on High Alert , we’re talking about un
Send us Fan Mail You Can’t Love Well From a False Map | Dating on High Alert with Ilja Abbattista What happens when the information you’ve used to understand yourself was never built for the full picture? A major new stu
Send us Fan Mail What if the intensity you’re feeling… isn’t connection? In this episode of Dating on High Alert , we’re looking at something that doesn’t get talked about anywhere near enough - the way ambiguity, incons
Send us Fan Mail Your Body Already Knew. Your Mind Just Didn’t Want to Know. Have you ever had a feeling about someone that you kept explaining away? It wasn't because you were naïve, or because you “missed the signs.” B
Send us Fan Mail You don’t keep choosing the same person. It just feels like you do. Different face. Same pattern. Different relationship. Same ending. Different version of you… somehow still stuck in the same place. And
Send us Fan Mail Why are you late… even when you care? In this episode, we’re talking about ADHD, autism, and time blindness, and why AuDHD brains experience time completely differently. This is not an episode about excu
Send us Fan Mail In the final part of the masking trilogy, Ilja goes somewhere she has never gone publicly before. This episode isn’t theory, it’s truth. The difference between the self-criticism you can hear… and the ki
Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever been told you’re too sensitive, too alert, or overreacting … this episode is going to land. In Part Two of the masking series, Ilja Abbattista goes deeper into what’s actually powering the
Send us Fan Mail 💬 Need support with this right now? If this episode brought something up for you, you don’t have to sit with it alone. Dear Ilja is real-time voice note support, for when you’re spiralling, overthinking
Send us Fan Mail What if being “too sensitive” isn’t a flaw… but a nervous system that learned to pay attention? In this episode, Ilja explores what it means to feel everything deeply, the overwhelm, the misunderstanding
Send us Fan Mail Why does something small feel so devastating? A delayed reply. That shift in tone. A cancelled plan. And suddenly your whole body reacts. In this episode of Dating on High Alert , I’m talking about rejec
Send us Fan Mail There was a relationship in my life that felt electric. Not chaotic. Not obviously toxic. But ambiguous. And that ambiguity felt like chemistry. In this episode of Dating on High Alert , I’m unpacking so
Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m talking about impulsive spending, but not in the way it’s usually framed. This isn’t about budgeting tips or learning to “just say no.” It’s about the nervous system. The hyper-focus
Send us Fan Mail Why do some of us only seem able to start when the pressure is unbearable? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about last-minute living, not as a productivity problem, but as a nervous system response
Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Dating on High Alert , Ilja explores masking through a trauma-informed lens, especially for people with ADHD, autism, and complex trauma. Rather than treating masking as something to “
Send us Fan Mail Shutdown doesn’t look dramatic. It looks quiet. It looks like going flat. Pulling back. Not having the energy to explain. Losing your appetite. Staying in bed because your body won’t move, even when your
Send us Fan Mail For a lot of neurodivergent people, especially those living with ADHD, autism and trauma, ambiguity doesn’t land as “nothing is happening yet.” It lands in the body. As activation. As tension. As a quiet
Send us Fan Mail For many of us with trauma and neurodivergence, telling the difference between intuition and hyper-vigilance isn’t simple. The body reacts before the mind can make sense of what’s happening, and what loo
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Dating on High Alert is hosted by Ilja Abbattista. The show is categorised under society (culture) and has published 38 episodes.
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