
Episode #21
Ep. 21: Sara Martin - Navigating Mental Health as a supporting partner.
*Trigger Warning - This episode contains sensitive topic like depression and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD)* Throughout this month, we will delve into the theme of health, specifically examining different aspects of mental health. Our discussions will encompass viewpoints from a supportive partner, along with insights from queer, adoptee, and male perspectives. In this week's episode, I connect with my dog mom friend, Sara Martin, as we explore what it is like being a partner to someone who is struggling with mental health, specifically complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). Sara's initial understanding of mental health stemmed from her mother, a psychiatric nurse, who taught her children to appreciate the humanity of individuals rather than focusing solely on their illnesses. Later in her life, after her husband suffered a bike accident, they began to seek professional assistance for him as his mental health began to decline. They reached out to friends in their community who were therapists, asking for guidance and direction to find a professional that could meet her husband’s extensive needs. Finding the right fit wasn't straightforward. After several trials and eliminations, her husband finally connected with a therapist who suited him well. This journey also prompted Sara to confront her own mental health challenges as a supportive partner. She experienced burnout while caring for her husband and raising three young children. In order to provide him with the necessary support, she made the difficult decision to leave her teaching job. Eventually, Sara acted on her friends' advice to seek professional help herself, as they noticed she wasn’t quite herself. Taking their suggestions seriously, she went through her own process of trial and elimination and ultimately found a therapist who was trauma-informed and practiced IFS (Internal Family Systems). Together, Sara and her husband were able to rebuild their marriage from a place of healing and growth. They also worked to normalize conversations about mental health with their children, ensuring that if the need arose in the future, the option for support was readily available to them.






