
Episode #35
Other People Are Like the Weather | Vicki Anstey on Resilience, Self-Trust, Ocean Rowing & Finding Your True Self
What happens when you stop trying to control other people's reactions and start focusing on your own choices? In this episode, Lisa speaks with adventurer, keynote speaker, stress and resilience coach, and author Vicki Anstey about her powerful memoir Other People Are Like the Weather . Vicki shares the deeply personal journey behind the book, from leaving a long-term relationship and rebuilding self-trust to overcoming fear, navigating difficult relationships, and finding the courage to create a life that truly felt like her own. Vicki reflects on her transition from a career in advertising to becoming an endurance adventurer, including her appearance on SAS: Who Dares Wins and her experiences rowing across the Pacific Ocean. Together, Lisa and Vicki explore emotional regulation, resilience, psychological safety, stress, self-belief, and why the most transformative adventures often happen within ourselves. In this episode: • The story behind Other People Are Like the Weather • Rebuilding confidence after a life-changing breakup • Lessons from SAS: Who Dares Wins • Overcoming a lifelong fear of water • Rowing across the Pacific Ocean and managing extreme stress • Difficult team dynamics and emotional resilience • Why we can't control other people's behaviour • The importance of psychological safety and self-trust • How small, intentional steps can create lasting change Memorable Quotes "Other people are like the weather." "The most radical thing that any of us can do is not to row oceans or climb peaks or cycle across continents. It's literally just to be intentional in our lives." "We spend half our lives becoming who we're told to be. And then maybe the rest of our life is trying to unravel that and find out who we really are."

