
Episode #160
Becoming Mom, Twice Over: Ariana's Journey Through RIVF and Foster-to-Adopt
Ariana dreamed of being a mom since she was a little girl — and as a queer woman, she always knew that path might not be simple. In this episode, we talk with Ariana about the two very different roads she's walked to build her family. Ariana's journey began when she partnered with a woman who also wanted to be a parent. Her partner didn't want to carry a pregnancy, but she did want a genetic connection to the child, which led them to reciprocal IVF (RIVF). It's a beautiful option, but not an inexpensive one — Ariana walks us through the months of research it took to find a fertility clinic whose payment plan let them delay payments until after their son was born. After their son arrived, Ariana's relationship broke down — but she knew her family-building journey wasn't finished. She felt called to adopt a child who needed a home, and set out on an entirely different path: working with child protective services, completing the required courses, home studies, and casework to apply through the umbrella foster-to-adopt program. Five months ago, a two-month-old baby boy was placed in Ariana's care. Now, as they wait for the courts to complete their due diligence, Ariana is holding onto hope that by the end of his first year, she'll be able to call herself his mother — formally and legally. This is a story about persistence, about the many forms family can take, and about what it means to keep showing up for the dream you've had since childhood. In this episode: Growing up queer and dreaming of motherhood Choosing reciprocal IVF (RIVF) as a path to parenthood Navigating the cost and logistics of fertility treatment Finding a clinic with a payment plan built for real families Life after a relationship ends but the dream doesn't Foster-to-adopt: the courses, casework, and waiting Hoping for a legal, forever "mom" title within the first year Resources mentioned: Fertility clinic: CNY Fertility https://www.cnyfertility.com Connect with Ariana: Follow her family's story on TikTok @a_dennis21






