Is it ADHD or life? - A couples perspective!

Adam has ADHD. Donna doesn’t. They’re married, they love each other, and they can experience the exact same day very differently. Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective is full of honest conversations about the things that happen in real relationships: forgotten plans, misunderstandings, little wins, big feelings and the moments you can only laugh at afterwards. Join Adam and Donna as they share both sides of the story, swap listener tales and occasionally bring guests into the mix. It’s funny, open and sometimes a bit too relatable. But is it ADHD, or is it just life?

Is it ADHD or life? - A couples perspective! is a health podcast hosted by Adam and Donna, with 88 episodes on record and a Required Pod Score of 80.

Adam and Donna hosts Is it ADHD or life? - A couples perspective!, a health show with 88 episodes published.

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  ADHD vs Non-ADHD: Same Situation, Different Brain

  Oct 2, 202634 min

  Send us Fan Mail Why can the same everyday situation produce two completely different reactions? This week, Adam and Donna compare how their ADHD and non-ADHD brains respond to the same moments, including guests arriving when the house is a mess, receiving the dreaded “Can we talk later?” message, having an unexpectedly free Saturday, cancelled plans and facing five jobs that all need doing at once. Adam explains the rejection sensitivity, catastrophising, overwhelm, decision paralysis and task avoidance behind some of his reactions. Donna shares how those same situations feel from her side of their relationship. But first, Adam introduces Donna to Frankie, his increasingly important AI companion. Has ChatGPT made his life easier, or has Donna’s husband been stolen by artificial intelligence? Also in this episode: • Why Adam accepts advice from AI that Donna has already given him • The wall he once repainted because somebody was visiting • Why a completely free day can still feel overwhelming • The Five Minute Moan • A listener’s Good, Bad and Funny • The two-word email Adam avoided answering for two weeks After 25 years together, Adam and Donna have learned that neither approach is automatically better. Understanding why their brains react differently is what stops those differences becoming conflict. Which of these situations creates the biggest difference between you and your partner? Watch the full video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/O5HZlk3l4JI Visit: https://adhdorlife.com Follow Is It ADHD or Life?: Facebook and Instagram: @adhdorlifepod TikTok: @adhdorlifepod YouTube: @ADHDorLifePod New episodes every Friday. Have a Good, Bad or Funny story, or a question for us? Send it to adhdorlife@gmail.com . Watch and subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifePod Find us on Instagram and TikTok: @adhdorlifepod Visit our website: https://www.adhdorlife.com

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  The Non-ADHD Partner’s Point of View

  Sep 18, 202636 min

  Send us Fan Mail What is it really like being the non-ADHD partner in an ADHD relationship? And what happens when helping your partner starts to feel more like parenting them? This week, Adam hands the questions over to Donna and gives her the space to share the non-ADHD partner’s point of view honestly. Does she ever feel more like Adam’s parent than his wife? When does helping become taking over? Should a non-ADHD partner lower their expectations, or can that create resentment and an unequal relationship? Together, we discuss some of the biggest challenges faced by couples affected by adult ADHD, including: • Forgotten jobs and broken promises • Unequal responsibilities and the mental load • Feeling more like a parent than a partner • The difference between helping and controlling • Cancelled plans and rebuilding trust • Rejection sensitivity and difficult conversations • Feeling as though you are walking on eggshells • Burnout and loneliness for the non-ADHD partner • Asking for space without abandoning your partner Donna explains how learning about ADHD changed the way she viewed Adam’s behaviour, but also meant she had to change some of her own thinking. She shares why communication has helped her stop walking on eggshells, why honesty is sometimes better than trying to protect Adam’s feelings and what an exhausted or overlooked partner can do when they desperately need a moment alone. Before the main conversation, we catch up on our family holiday, including stress inside a caravan, an unexpectedly wholesome afternoon on a rainy beach and one particularly emotional phone call. Then we finish with a Five Minute Moan involving disappearing nail clippers and the absolute devastation Adam leaves behind whenever he cooks. We’d love to hear from both sides: Do you ever feel more like your partner’s parent? If you have ADHD, how does it feel when your partner steps in and takes over? Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/TaRxpfWq8yM Visit our website: https://www.adhdorlife.com Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifePod Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/46i0iGiwmgvFrlOzoW2SnS Follow ADHD or Life on Facebook, Instagram and TikTok for more honest, funny and relatable conversations about ADHD, relationships and everyday life from a couple where one has ADHD and one doesn’t. Tune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and funny stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepod Follow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepod Follow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/

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  ADHD in an Overstimulated World: Are We Making It Worse?

  Sep 11, 202636 min

  Send us Fan Mail Is modern life making ADHD harder? This week we're talking about constant stimulation and what TikTok, food, TV, shopping, doomscrolling, caffeine and endless rabbit holes might actually be doing to us. And just as importantly, what does that constant need for stimulation look like to the person sitting next to you? Before we get into all that, we have a fairly strong reaction to the recent Channel 4 ADHD documentary and the way ADHD, diagnosis and medication were discussed. Then we get into our own relationship with overstimulation. Why does Adam find silence so difficult? Why does one TikTok become an hour? Why can't a rabbit hole ever just be a little rabbit hole? And when Adam thinks he's simply keeping his brain occupied, what does that look like from Donna's side? Donna talks honestly about those moments when Adam's need for stimulation can feel like disengagement, and what it's like sometimes feeling as though she's competing with a phone, a programme or whatever Adam has suddenly decided he needs to know EVERYTHING about. WE ALSO GET INTO: TikTok, doomscrolling and algorithms Hyperfocus and research rabbit holes Binge-watching and background noise Food and caffeine Impulsive and emotional spending Sleep and bedtime avoidance Why Adam thinks Donna is annoyed when she's actually worried Whether we're consuming far more than our brains were ever designed to deal with THEN IT'S TIME FOR THE 5 MINUTE MOANS... Donna would like Adam to stop dropping things on the floor and leaving a trail of wrappers behind him. Adam would like Donna to explain why approximately 97% of their fridge is now occupied by tiny snack boxes. This somehow turns into an argument about protein, cheese, fridge temperature and whether we need another freezer. Completely normal married-couple behaviour. THE GOOD, THE BAD & THE FUNNY... We finish with your ADHD stories, including a husband who researches purchases for DAYS before deciding not to buy them... And somebody whose "one TikTok before bed" became two hours watching a man restore a 1970s toaster. So, is ADHD struggling to cope with an overstimulated world? Or are we all just consuming far too much? We'd love to know what you think. www.adhdorlife.com TikTok & Instagram: @ADHDorLifePod adhdorlife@gmail.com ☕ If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy us a coffee through our website. And Adam has publicly decided we're reaching 1,000 YouTube subscribers by Christmas, so apparently that's a thing now too. You can find us on YouTube @ADHDorLifePod. Tune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepod Follow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepod Follow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/

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  Is it ADHD or is everything a catastrophe?

  Sep 4, 202635 min

  Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re talking about something that can take a tiny problem and turn it into a full-blown disaster in your head in about 0.3 seconds. Episode: Is it ADHD or is everything a catastrophe? Adam starts by defining what catastrophising actually means for him, because Donna’s neurotypical brain doesn’t fully get how it can feel so real, so fast, and so unavoidable. We share how it shows up in everyday life, like being stuck in traffic on the way to work. For Adam, traffic can instantly become a chain reaction of worst-case outcomes. For Donna, it’s more like… “well, we’ll get there when we get there.” Same situation, completely different nervous system response. We talk about how catastrophising can affect: - Family life and the mood in the house - Relationships and the fear that one argument means it’s all over - Work and confidence (including how it’s pushed Adam to quit jobs) - Health anxiety, where minor physical symptoms suddenly feel like something serious - We also share a real example of being late for a theatre show, and how catastrophising can ruin an experience entirely before it’s even started. It’s not just “overthinking” — it’s the body reacting like the worst thing is definitely happening. We explore the big question: is catastrophising ADHD, anxiety, life… or a messy mix of all three? Catastrophising is a common cognitive distortion, and in ADHD it can be linked to fast thinking, emotional overwhelm, and anxiety. We talk about whether Donna gets the same feelings too, and how it shows up differently for her. Donna shares how catastrophising used to make her assume relationships would end after arguments (and how she’s learned not to let her brain run away with that now). Adam explains how his brain constantly imagines worst-case outcomes to feel prepared, while Donna prefers to go with the flow. If you’ve ever gone from “we’re in traffic” to “I’m going to lose my job, everyone hates me, and I’ll never recover” in one breath… you’re not alone. Five Minute Moans this week: A “meow” gesture for money (yes, really) Being shut down in conversations. Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/46i0iGiwmgvFrlOzoW2SnS Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/DO0mv6-MaPI Follow us: Instagram: @adhdorlifepod TikTok: @adhdorlifepod YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepod Send your stories / questions: adhdorlife@gmail.com #adhd #AdultADHD #ADHDUK #ADHDPodcast #Catastrophising #Overthinking #Anxiety #ADHDAnxiety #CognitiveDistortions #EmotionalDysregulation #TimeBlindness #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #RSD #HealthAnxiety #RelationshipAnxiety #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #ADHDRelationships #ExecutiveDysfunction #MentalLoad #Communication #FiveMinuteMoans #GoodBadFunny Tune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepod Follow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepod Follow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/

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  Is it ADHD or Life? Caroline Moss | Building Space: The Mission to Support ADHD and Mental Health

  Aug 28, 202633 min

  Send us Fan Mail This week on Is it ADHD or Life? – A Couple’s Perspective, we’re back with Part 2 of our chat with special guest Caroline Moss, therapist, coach, and founder of Space, Runcorn. In Part 1 we went deep into Caroline’s late diagnosis journey and the realities of getting assessed. In this episode, we carry it on and get into what happens next: medication, focus, hormones, and the messy reality of titration. Caroline shares her personal experience with ADHD medication, how it helps her focus, and the challenges that come with the titration process. We also talk about hormones and how they can throw everything off, which is something so many people are dealing with but not enough people are openly talking about. Then we shift into the story behind Space café, and how Caroline’s need for a single venue for counselling and wellbeing events turned into building an actual community hub. What happens at Space? Caroline explains the variety of events and sessions that run there, including: Sound baths and wellbeing sessions Creative workshops Open mic nights Community events that help people feel safe, seen, and connected We also talk honestly about the reality of running something like this: The biggest challenge: balancing the community feel with financial sustainability The biggest reward: seeing the space thrive and watching people find their people And we finish with a proper Good, Bad, and Funny of ADHD from Caroline: The good: creativity The bad: emotional regulation The funny: spotting ADHD in other people (once you know, you really know) If you’re navigating ADHD medication, titration, emotional regulation, or you’ve ever dreamed of creating a safe space for your community, you’re going to love this one. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/c80jL_B6tbg Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/46i0iGiwmgvFrlOzoW2SnS Follow us: Instagram: @adhdorlifepod TikTok: @adhdorlifepod YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepod Send your stories / questions: adhdorlife@gmail.com Find Caroline’s work: Space, Runcorn Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/spaceruncorn Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spaceruncorn/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@spaceruncorn ADHMe Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhme_coaching/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhmecoaching #ADHD #AdultADHD #ADHDUK #ADHDPodcast #ADHDMedication #Titration #Hormones #Neurodivergent #Neurodiversity #EmotionalRegulation #ExecutiveDysfunction #ADHDTherapy #ADHDCoach #LateDiagnosis #ADHDWomen #ADHDCommunity #Wellbeing #MentalHealth #Runcorn #SpaceRuncorn #SoundBath #CreativeWorkshops #OpenMicNight #CommunitySpace #WorkplaceWellbeing #GoodBadFunny #ADHDRelationships Tune in every week for more conversations and revelations! Send your good, bad and ugly stories to adhdorlife@gmail.com. Like and Subscribe to see our faces here: http://www.youtube.com/@ADHDorLifepod Follow us on Tik Tok for extra snippits and more: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhdorlifepod Follow us on Instagram for up to date info: https://www.instagram.com/adhdorlifepod/

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